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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2022 16:25:42 GMT -5
Hi all. Looking for a place to converse and share. Married 41 years. Some serious problems early on. We sort of overcame them. But like a lot of us, my partner just doesn’t desire me. Looking forward to conversation.
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Post by jerri on Jan 26, 2022 7:42:28 GMT -5
Welcome Jack! Serious problems?! Desire you? Or has the New Relationship Energy hormones worn off so she thinks she doesn't want sex?
Idk just fishing!
My husband sent all sorts of mixed messages. One that was very clear was"you don't stimulate me. I started immediately balling and said you take that back! I don't need to hear that and it's nasty to say that when I have tried so hard for so long! Even if it was true you should keep that to yourself!...One of dozens of excuses that I had corrected until he gave me one I couldn't possibly correct. That's what it came down to. I thought it was about me for many years and I would find that sex technique that he would love! He just told me I'm not your little science experiment... let's just do it.That was early on. I should have ran. A therapist talked me into staying. Each therapist just taught me how to endure and I just didn't know it would get worse and worse.
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Post by northstarmom on Feb 7, 2022 17:12:50 GMT -5
jerri: "A therapist talked me into staying. Each therapist just taught me how to endure and I just didn't know it would get worse and worse."
Those therapists shouldn't have been talking you into anything, but helping you figure out your own path.
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Post by jerri on Feb 8, 2022 8:55:16 GMT -5
Exactly. They do give you different paths and scenarios and consequences of choices. But most seem to guide you to the path of their choosing
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