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Post by dallasgia on Aug 3, 2021 7:48:36 GMT -5
I am checking in on all of you - how are you doing? How did you survive the pandemic isolation layered over your private physical marital isolation?
My work moved me home like so many of you and that took its toll. Some much unending togetherness yet complete isolation. It became ever more clear to me just how much social interactions outside of my marriage that I relied upon. Though I never caught Covid - it dang near killed me.
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Post by solitarysoul on Aug 3, 2021 12:15:24 GMT -5
COVID has been easy.... i have no life or friends anyway so almost nothing changed for me except for having to occasionally work from home...which drove the W nuts... so i am in the office as much as i can be... for her sanity and mine.
The W actually said "This is probably easy for you since you dont see anyone anyway!".... and she was right... and now i had an excuse not to go to restaurants...
Now if these other people in the office will just be quiet, i might get some work done...
and now the pandemic of the unvaxx'd starts... and the next world shutdown to go with it...
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Post by angeleyes65 on Aug 4, 2021 19:09:17 GMT -5
It was hard but neither of us got covid. I switched jobs to a work from home job.. bad timing didn't know I was going to be home 24/7. I will say I'm glad I wasn't quarantined with my to ex. With warm weather and vaccination , I was feeling good about getting out and doing things inside and out with no mask. But here we are again, vaccinated but avoiding indoor things and wearing masks when we are indoors. Have to say it was kind of disheartening Thankful we ordered a pool last year gives us more to do and let's me spend more time with my grandson he's 2 .5 and loves it.
We both have put on weight and can't seem to lose it.
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Post by sadkat on Aug 4, 2021 20:43:12 GMT -5
Hello dallasgia! It’s good to hear from you! I survived the isolation, which forced me to be alone for longer than I wanted. I moved into a new house recently and started traveling again. I didn’t get Covid and got vaccinated as soon as I could- mostly to have the freedom to get out. I’m now getting involved with meetups and starting to meet people in the area where my new home is. I’m hopeful that a brighter future awaits me- whatever that looks like. |
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Post by dallasgia on Oct 6, 2021 15:12:47 GMT -5
Days after I posted this - my mom tested positive for Covid. It dang near killed her. I’ve been in another state now for 45 days and counting. Talked to the spouse maybe 3 times. I’m living a life completely separate from him. Aside from the crazy stress around rehab and potential dependency of a previous healthy and active parent, the peace of being out of the toxic soup of my marriage makes life a touch easier.
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Post by h on Oct 15, 2021 14:32:54 GMT -5
I haven't socialized with my last few friends in a couple years now. They dropped off the map when COVID first started getting noticed in 2019. I bumped into them once a few months ago but after a quick hello, they rushed off as if I was carrying a plague. I don't expect to see them ever again. I get being careful, but they've taken irrational fear to new heights. I worked from home for 3 months last year and a few weeks this year during temporary shutdowns from case spikes in our areas. I hated it. I'm not really a big fan of my job, but it's the lesser of two evils. At least going to work got me out of the house. Things at home have not changed at all in this time. W still hasn't made an effort to change and I quit making advances years ago. We peacefully coexist and not much more.
Last month I got COVID. Symptoms were no worse than a moderate flu (plus the loss of taste and smell). I'm off quarantine but the shortness of breath is still present although it's slowly resolving a little each day. Taste and smell are still pretty much gone unless it's an extremely powerful taste or smell (spicy food, peppermint...). My mother, sister, and niece all caught it a few weeks later (not from me as we hadn't been in contact). They're faring much better than I did having been on a regiment of high dose vitamins proactively while I hadn't started that until after I was already sick. We've picked up groceries for them a few times as they did for us when we were quarantined.
Really nothing has changed for me other than the loss of my "in person" friends. I still have a few online friends left. To be honest, my in person friends are more activity companions. I haven't had a friend in a long time that I ever shared anything deep with in person.
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Post by mirrororchid on Oct 19, 2021 6:08:26 GMT -5
Really nothing has changed for me other than the loss of my "in person" friends. I still have a few online friends left. To be honest, my in person friends are more activity companions. I haven't had a friend in a long time that I ever shared anything deep with in person. Sorry about the long COVID symptoms. Hopefully they'll disperse in short order. They did for my daughter's beau's mom. Aggravating waiting, though. A parenting article I read spoke of taking closed-off children to activities reliably and moments where they accidentally open up will occur spontaneously for no reason. Perhaps it works that way with adult friends too. Proximity breeds familiarity which in turn can provide the investment to listen to some woes. |
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Post by h on Oct 23, 2021 8:44:16 GMT -5
Really nothing has changed for me other than the loss of my "in person" friends. I still have a few online friends left. To be honest, my in person friends are more activity companions. I haven't had a friend in a long time that I ever shared anything deep with in person. Sorry about the long COVID symptoms. Hopefully they'll disperse in short order. They did for my daughter's beau's mom. Aggravating waiting, though. A parenting article I read spoke of taking closed-off children to activities reliably and moments where they accidentally open up will occur spontaneously for no reason. Perhaps it works that way with adult friends too. Proximity breeds familiarity which in turn can provide the investment to listen to some woes. My symptoms are still getting better. My lungs are probably around 70% of what they were before. It's still taxing to climb stairs with a mask on at work, but I can make it up them without having to stop midway. The cough still persists but it's not as bad. No change in my taste or smell though. I'm really hoping that's not permanent. It's been a month since I was released from quarantine now. As for the rest, I doubt I'll ever see my in person friends again. It's been over 2 years since the last time I tried to set up a get together which got only a noncommittal reply of "sometime." I bumped into each of them last month (before I got sick) and got the silly elbow bump from one of them before he practically sprinted away from me like I had the plague. The other stayed distant and said no more than hi before walking away. They've been thoroughly brainwashed into fearing all social interaction. It's sad to see it, but there's nothing I can do about it. I don't expect either of them to contact me anymore. You can't change a person who doesn't see anything wrong that needs to change. They've made their choices and although I don't agree, it's still their choice to make. |
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Post by solitarysoul on Oct 23, 2021 16:38:28 GMT -5
h, i hear you... several years ago, i realized that i was always the one reaching out to my old HS friends... never them reaching out to me. So one day, i decided to just stop. And now all these years later, i have never heard from any of them... to busy with the own lives i guess. But that did hurt. Why did they just start not caring about a friendship we have had for about 20 years?... Now, i could care less. ... they obviously did.
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 23, 2021 18:38:53 GMT -5
Ditto solitarysoul,...My so called friends rarely reached out to me. I was the one doing the calling, etc. And following my 1st divorce I almost never heard from them at all. So I decided to distance myself from them and end my efforts to stay in touch. None of them have called me in decades....And I don't regret f*cking their wives. How do you like them apples?
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Post by jim44444 on Oct 24, 2021 18:56:01 GMT -5
I still meet with old friends once a month for breakfast. One of them died from covid, another is now unable to attend because of his muscular dystrophy.
I also make a point to visit with a friend who is battling cancer. At 71 I am not inclined to make new friends nor to abandon old ones.
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Post by northstarmom on Oct 24, 2021 20:35:39 GMT -5
Jim: "I still meet with old friends once a month for breakfast. One of them died from covid, another is now unable to attend because of his muscular dystrophy.
I also make a point to visit with a friend who is battling cancer. At 71 I am not inclined to make new friends nor to abandon old ones."
It's wonderful that you support your old friends, but why not make new friends? The downside of not making new friends is that as one ages, one can outlive all of one's old friends. I've found that new friends as well as new interests enrich my life.
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Post by mirrororchid on Oct 25, 2021 4:27:46 GMT -5
There's been at least one gathering of ILIASM members in Nashville, right?
Maybe some of us are local and could shoot some pool or throw some darts.
I'm between Baltimore and Washington DC if anyone is in town.
Some folks may be in my shoes and overscheduled themselves.
I run a small business, counsel a person suffering from self-harm issues, work on my condo association's board of directors as well as my friend in a dissolving marriage, have a full time job, engage in debates with three old friends online, meet with another set of friends, make the REFUSED podcast, play laser tag as an aerobic workout, and do most of the housework. Someday I'm going to play Volleyball with my Meetup group, dangit.
Engaging my wife to try to get her out of her bed used to take some time, but we're both happier when I ignore her undermedicated clinical depression. I'd feel guilty if she complained or got worse.
I'd have time to meet up with a despondent ILIASM member from Baltington/Washimore once a month or so, if anyone wants to ask.
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 25, 2021 4:42:01 GMT -5
That's a pretty full plate mirrororchid,....It's not very interesting but I am spending the end of summer, start of fall in doing what we shall call deferred maintenance on the landscaping. I have replanted a bunch of areas where the grass hasn't done well, cut a bunch of low hanging limbs so as to mow easier, and right now I am moving some azaleas that have become too crowded amongst other large plants. And I still pick up my grandkids off the bus and watch them 3 days a week. I have also become more involved in my church's program for feeding the homeless/ others who are not homeless but still need assistance with food.
Unfortunately I haven't done a lot of riding my motorcycle. Too hot over the summer and now I have other priorities, see above.
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