For those of you still in it, wondering how you fell for it, what's happening, how to get out. Justifying your desire to leave. This article may help. Not applicable to all readers, take from it what you will.
Post by endthegame on Aug 11, 2021 16:37:51 GMT -5
As in Ennas 'nice refuser' post of yesteryear. If we were with and overt sociopath we wouldn't stick around, it's simply too abusive and identifiable. I think they walk the tightrope of abuse vs nice in order to slowly lower our standards and we tolerate increasing emotional abuse over time.
I must admit, now I've been out a few years I can see clearly how this works.
I would urge people standing on the edge of the stay/leave cliff to consider jumping. It's nice in opposite land.
desertfather: I just felt lonely lately. Wanted to talk to someone.
Apr 5, 2022 8:29:18 GMT -5
mirrororchid: I mention a few online chat rooms a few posts up, desertfather. Meetup.com provides real live people to chat with. Given your ILIASM situation, a lot of folks locate a therapist. (helpful for touchy subjects you can't go over with friends for over a year.
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worksforme2: Happy Birthday bballgirl, where ever you are.......
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northstarmom: Thanks for the birthday wishes, worksforme2!
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onempty: Dry Creek, you are absolutely spot on with all this advice. Separate bank accounts a good idea IMO but might be harder to achieve and could cause other problems if there is a huge disparity in income.
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worksforme2: Happy Birthday GreekGoddess.....
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