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Post by mirrororchid on Aug 2, 2021 6:32:28 GMT -5
Isthisit
I wonder if some lurkers create an account simply to read the none public parts of the forum to gain access to more stories.I am guessing some people that sign up but never or rarely post have similar issues. I am also guessing some people read some of the posts and think "what a bunch of screwed up people." I have read other forums, from a forum that "anything can be fixed" to "you should have divorced a long time ago."
My point is there are about as many reasons as there are posters and readers. There are too many reasons to list.
I also figure some people find a post that very nearly matches their situation, read as much as they need to in order to decide on a course of action. They get what they need. Responding to "ghosts" produces more stories, more reactions, and more matches. Perhaps the long haulers are victims of their success? |
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Post by lonelycat on Aug 14, 2021 7:21:32 GMT -5
There are many reasons why sometimes I don't post.
1)Probably the biggest one is that English is not my first, or second language. I have a difficult time writing and expressing myself. Hmmm... maybe it's not as much as language barrier, maybe I don't really know how to express myself.
2) Time - I have my small business to run, household to take care. Sometimes I read something and say to myself "Oh, I will post something about that later" and never have a chance to go back or can't find the darn post. I finally learned to bookmark the messages I want to go back to reading. Most of the time I read late at night on my phone.
3) It is painful to read some of the comments, sometimes I had to stop reading because I felt I was relieving some of my grief, sadness and pain.
I have found a few people here that I can related and started following their comments, all the way to 2016. I also started getting people's story messed up. I almost started a cheat sheet!
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Post by theexplorer on Aug 30, 2021 11:54:40 GMT -5
3) It is painful to read some of the comments, sometimes I had to stop reading because I felt I was relieving some of my grief, sadness and pain.
This has been and sometimes still is a problem for me. As I've come to at least partially accept my situation, it has become somewhat easier to read other people's experience. Sometimes their stories still affect me though!
I also have a great deal of stuff to deal with in real life. A less than healthy wife; elderly parents that need a great deal of help, taking care of ALL of the shopping and errands since my wife struggles with walking, (for my home and my parents!) not to mention trying to maintain my own home and vehicles, plus all the things people normally deal with like working, etc.
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