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Post by itsjustus on Jun 7, 2016 10:45:01 GMT -5
Aaaand, the other shoe dropped - he just got in a big fight with our son on the phone, trying to insist that our son be willing to be a sub for two different basketball teams that are short of players today. Our son refused, saying he has a big playoff game for his own team tomorrow and that he was looking forward to relaxing today. Our son ended up in tears, telling me his father made him feel like a worthless person because he didn't want to sub. The truth of the matter is that my ex wants our son to sub so that HE looks good, not because it's good for our son. So this is what I get for facing him down - he turns around and attacks our son. I don't even know how to handle this. I'm not going to make our son play when he doesn't want to do it. Would it be nice of him to help out? Sure. Is it his fault that two other teams ended up short of players hours before their games? Um, no. It didn't occur to me that my ex would go after one of our children when I dared to call him out on his nasty behavior. Apparently there are no limits to which he won't sink. Do you think there was a direct link between these two event's? That it was retribution directed against you for your facing him down? You would know, of course, but I'd hate to see you take the blame on yourself for how dipshit treated your son. It's something I've had to watch out for in myself. Taking the blame for "poking the bear" (yes...I actually used that phrase with my by then grown daughters...) and thinking I just unleashed a pissed off bear on others. But, as I learned at EP, her treatment of others, regardless of my prior actions...were her's to own. If it wasn't me that poked her (metaphor irony..lol), it would have been someone else. I'm just wondering.... |
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Post by RealMustangGuy on Jun 8, 2016 18:34:16 GMT -5
Mountainrunner, this is the first time I've ever tried to reply to a post I've read here. Still learning and not learning very well lol. Anyway, if this will work, and if you will ever see this, I think your son is to be commended for sticking up for his own team. Loyalty is an important concept that is sadly lacking in today's world, and that your son placed his own team first to me is great. He recognized that playing for those other teams might have affected his ability to give his dedication and effort to his own team. I think he did great on making that call, it's just way too bad that your STBX put him in that spot and made him feel bad.
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Post by missinhard on Aug 7, 2016 16:27:18 GMT -5
I'm feeling exactly what you are. Thank you for your post!! I have to admit that I have let my ex have it so many times. I've been cruel and cold and downright nasty and I'm not proud of it. I'm just glad that once everything is finalized, I will never have to see him again.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 8, 2016 1:25:30 GMT -5
I'm feeling exactly what you are. Thank you for your post!! I have to admit that I have let my ex have it so many times. I've been cruel and cold and downright nasty and I'm not proud of it. I'm just glad that once everything is finalized, I will never have to see him again. Keep that last point foremost in your mind. I read your other post with more of the story, and the most appalling part was his blubbering about how irreparably broken he'd be if you dumped him, only to go straight out and find his next victim. Yeah that has to hurt like a kick in the nuts, but to be forgotten by a guy like that is a blessing. He's someone else's problem now. |
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Post by missinhard on Aug 9, 2016 0:51:11 GMT -5
Yes he is someone else's problem now. I'm trying to keep that first and foremost in my mind.
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Post by missinhard on Aug 19, 2016 1:52:30 GMT -5
I hate him more as this process goes on. I can't fuck enough people although I'm trying. Not the best way to deal with things but it's better than pledging my love to someone when I don't want or mean it. I'm getting my rocks off. Fuck him. Fuck him. What a colossal waste of years of my life. Coward. Such a coward.
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