Distance and online love

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Distance and online love Apr 30, 2021 10:43:25 GMT -5 via mobile jim44444, TMD, and 4 more like this

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Post by northstarmom on Apr 30, 2021 10:43:25 GMT -5

Thought you would enjoy this NYT story about one of my online friends whom I met on a dating site. He and I had lots in common but lived 1,,200 miles apart so never connected in person. I ended up with post sm partner who lived in my town. Eight years later we are still happily together. My online friend ended up marrying a woman whom he met on OK Cupid and lived more than 3,000 miles from him. The NYT just wrote about their marriage. I’m happy for them and for me.

www.nytimes.com/2021/04/30/fashion/weddings/sarah-lenz-stephen-paskey-wedding.html?referringSource=articleShare&fbclid=IwAR3TvYXfhHs25MbqNx3AvUIjGG3jcQMZSuh0WB__1plfe0f-FGEMSLIT3s8

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Distance and online love Apr 30, 2021 11:08:33 GMT -5 ironhamster and saarinista like this

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Post by isthisit on Apr 30, 2021 11:08:33 GMT -5

Thank you! You have made my day!

I am an incurable romantic and would far rather find Mr Wonderful in Timbuktu than Mr Okay conveniently around the corner. I am resilient, resourceful and patient, and I guess I need him to be these things too. Mr Wonderful is worth the trouble, and he needs to feel the same about me. I imagine it’s a great test of compatibility.

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Distance and online love May 1, 2021 21:59:52 GMT -5 via mobile northstarmom and saarinista like this

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Post by TMD on May 1, 2021 21:59:52 GMT -5

Great article. I loved their vows:

“cherish and delight in your spirit, and ask only that you be your authentic self; to witness, with total acceptance, the radiant, imperfect beauty of that self, of who you have been, and who you are today, and who you will become; and to be radically honest with you, with myself, and with others and to hear the truth you tell me.”

"The capacity that people have to love... Where does it go?" -- Truly, Madly, Deeply

saarinista Senior Member Posts: 1,609 Age Range: 56-60	Distance and online love May 3, 2021 21:13:49 GMT -5 via mobile itme likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by saarinista on May 3, 2021 21:13:49 GMT -5 I love the idea of radical honesty.
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Distance and online love

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