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Post by northstarmom on Feb 25, 2021 17:53:16 GMT -5
tooyoungtobeold: "The past 2-years have involved moving, buying land, designing a house, building a house and now wrapping up a house (landscape, exterior details, maybe finish the unfinished basement) and I'm exhausted."
Sounds like you've arranged your life so it would be very difficult for you to divorce....
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Post by saarinista on Feb 25, 2021 19:15:33 GMT -5
Fortunately, marriage is about much more than love. In fact, love is optional; sex, even more so. Finances and living arrangements and childcare and debt? Mandatory! 😏🤦♀️
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2021 11:09:19 GMT -5
tooyoungtobeold: "The past 2-years have involved moving, buying land, designing a house, building a house and now wrapping up a house (landscape, exterior details, maybe finish the unfinished basement) and I'm exhausted." Sounds like you've arranged your life so it would be very difficult for you to divorce.... I didn't go into the last 2-years with anything like divorce on my mind. This is in the "choosing to stay" portion, you get that right? |
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Post by northstarmom on Feb 26, 2021 14:52:17 GMT -5
“ for you to divorce....
I didn't go into the last 2-years with anything like divorce on my mind. This is in the "choosing to stay" portion, you get that right?”
If you really are choosing to stay, man up and admit it. Don’t blame staying on external factors like exhaustion due to moving. Take responsibility for choosing the life you are in.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2021 17:28:32 GMT -5
“ for you to divorce.... I didn't go into the last 2-years with anything like divorce on my mind. This is in the "choosing to stay" portion, you get that right?” If you really are choosing to stay, man up and admit it. Don’t blame staying on external factors like exhaustion due to moving. Take responsibility for choosing the life you are in. Thanks for your sensitivity. A new member comes here and says, "I just want to vent" and that's cool. Choosing to stay doesn't mean that you don't stop processing. Honestly, fuck you. You can't understand why I wouldn't want to engage in a potentially life-altering conversation when I'm exhausted? Every spend 7-days a week working hard physical labor for 12-14 hours a day? I doubt it. |
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Post by northstarmom on Feb 26, 2021 17:37:52 GMT -5
Deleted: “ Honestly, fuck you. You can't understand why I wouldn't want to engage in a potentially life-altering conversation when I'm exhausted? Every spend 7-days a week working hard physical labor for 12-14 hours a day? I doubt it.”
As I said, take responsibility for the life you are choosing.
Your calling names won’t give you a satisfactory sex life.
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Post by saarinista on Feb 26, 2021 18:02:00 GMT -5
What the heck? Eyeroll. Yep that won't fix his situation.
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Post by jim44444 on Feb 26, 2021 19:50:08 GMT -5
I have got to agree with northstarmom. The only reason I stay is because I have chosen to stay, or conversly I have chosen not to leave. Either way it is my chosing. The finances, the health issues, the social contraints, the kids/grandkids/family, whateverfuckingexcuse are just window dressing for me (us) to deny that I chose my path. |
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Post by jerri on Feb 26, 2021 21:32:20 GMT -5
. TooYoungtobeold WRITE ME ... writinghanna@gmail.com I am not wanting to disrupt a thread but please write me. . (((tight Hugs)))) Even if you deleted yourself write me. Okay, Fair Enough. Thanks for the info baza I thought that may be the case because it was so fast. Everyone please don't quote me I will be deleting my address. |
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Post by baza on Feb 26, 2021 23:41:42 GMT -5
It's extremely unlikely that he got deleted by the moderators.
I ain't seen that happen in this group, and I've been here for ages.
The usual cause of a member going "deleted" is by their own choice.
Chances are that the member (presumably @tooyoungtobold2) chose to delete himself.
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Post by jerri on Feb 27, 2021 1:20:39 GMT -5
I just wanted to say he is in a very unique situation. We have PM'ed each other and never in a million years would I leave if I had the exact scenario in my life.
I totally disagree with your assessment of him. Tone doesn't come across on the internet, but I mean it with respect.
For one, he found a really sweet piece of property worth a lot of money and he is a contractor. Why wouldn't a contractor build himself a spectacular abode? Does our life need to grind to a halt?
A person is not going to give us details of their entire circumstances on the homefront and none of us knows what is going on with his wife and children. I am not better than anyone in here. I will be in the same position at one point or another. I have my moments.
I am really sad he left. Dearest, TooYoungToBeOld, please come back, if not, I understand. Much love💔
ETA: I will go renew my profile at Marrige Builders .com because even if my love left me I would know that with the skills that l am building, I will communicate well in any sh!tuation and if nothing else I can practice in my current life and have more serenity in the future sexless or not. Reminds me of a video. That I love about communication that I have only practed in a small way. I will make a new thread in this forum.
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Post by jerri on Feb 27, 2021 2:02:51 GMT -5
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Post by carl on Mar 4, 2021 4:09:22 GMT -5
Just my opinion but I don’t think your wife should be talkiing about her plans to divorce you with your daughter. She is likely to see things equally from both your sides and as somebody said already gets a lot of whats going on - maybe better than either parent thinks. Talking to her about it could easily loose her respect and just look like your wife needs to talk. But is talking to the wrong person. You are her dad after all and if that was me and I was eighteen I would have seen that conversation as very embarasing and rude. Just seems very sad to me. Sorry to hear that happened.
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