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Post by JMX on Jun 2, 2016 19:34:08 GMT -5
Boo Fiery! There's so much here.
1.). Your son is still a teenager. He will get over all the gaming soon enough (fingers crossed for you, love!).
2.). If your STBX was truly better, he would let you get divorced!
3.) I m super interested in which dating site that is? I like the idea of a personality test - I always test ENFP, and I wonder how that translates?
4.) I am so sorry this is such a tough time. Loving someone and all. I feel for you.
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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 2, 2016 20:03:44 GMT -5
Holy moley Fiery,...any chance the Scandinavian house parents can come spend a couple weeks at your place?
I think I am going to limit my comments to the romantic portions of your post. There is a fair amount of credence to the advice that the best way to get over a breakup is to introduce a new love interest into the mix. However there is one caveat that perhaps wasn't mentioned. You have to want to replace the old BF. It doesn't work if you continue to carry a torch for the guy. I mean how can you fit someone new into the role of S.O. when what you still want is what you had. Sorry, won't work. And it's not fair to the new guy. You show up carrying all this baggage and drama and think something going to happen. I know what would happen if I met a woman still pining away for her lost love, I'd be history in a heart beat. No intelligent male is going to waste his time as soon as he figures out your mind and heart are somewhere else.
I recommend you hold off on reentering the dating pool. It doesn't read like you are ready.
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Post by baza on Jun 2, 2016 20:49:34 GMT -5
Sister Fiery.
I liked that chart you posted a couple of days ago about the possible paths that might lead to an eligible bloke, and the many paths that lead to nowhere.
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I hope you have a great and successful trip to the city in a weeks time.
You never know who you might run in to when travelling.
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 3, 2016 9:06:08 GMT -5
It is still so early post SM. Give it time and things will fall into place. Your main focus should be yourself and finding the things that make you happy independent of another person. I think for me the one thing that I mastered during the detachment phase prior to divorce was learning to be by myself and enjoy my own company. This past Monday I slept in, went for a walk, discovered a new tv show that made me watch an entire season in one day while I ate some awesome ribs I made. I had a great day by myself. My point is it's so early post SM just take it one day at a time and make yourself the priority. Hugs  |
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Post by bballgirl on Jun 3, 2016 17:42:43 GMT -5
It is still so early post SM. Give it time and things will fall into place. Your main focus should be yourself and finding the things that make you happy independent of another person. I think for me the one thing that I mastered during the detachment phase prior to divorce was learning to be by myself and enjoy my own company. This past Monday I slept in, went for a walk, discovered a new tv show that made me watch an entire season in one day while I ate some awesome ribs I made. I had a great day by myself. My point is it's so early post SM just take it one day at a time and make yourself the priority. Hugs Well bballgirl, I'm not sure whether you remember my whole story, but I wouldn't say "so early"... The finalisation of the legal process lasted a bit longer than I estimated, but the emotional detachment from my EXH was well underway long before I announced I would divorce him. I left my marital home more than a year ago and have been living alone every since (intermittently my son is back for short periods, summer or winter holidays, but I'm generally by myself for more than a year)... I have plenty of things that make me happy, and I may be just about the most independent type of person you will ever know... I also have a lot of friends, a running club, a personal blog/website, a Facebook page, I travel (at least once every month) and generally can be happy by myself. But this is not what I "want". And that's the issue... Ah I understand, it's coming back to me now and that is wonderful that you have a lot of different activities and friends in your life. I understand about what you "want" and patience and time will work everything out. Trust me I get it. Hugs. |
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