jerri a book that absolutely blew my mind, and initially I really struggled against the ideas therein, is "die psychology der emotionen" by Reykowski, quite an old book now, written originally in Polish and the only translation I know of is in German. Basically he explains that what we experience as emotions are in the first place unspecific physical symptoms, i.e. increased heartrate, a flush, adrenaline for example, and he further explains that this may be because you see your beloved coming up the front steps to take you to a date, or it may be because you're being stalked through the forest by a wolf. It is the interpretation that you put on the perception of the physical reaction that decides if this is experienced as fear, or as anticipation of a hot date.
As well, we compare the experiences of those perceptions, and draw parallels - so if you get excited in a specific way, you tend to assign the same emotion to that 'feeling'.
Sounded pretty alien the first time I read it. BUT: it's opened new horizons for me, because it taught me that also, I have the power to change how I perceive emotions. Because I can choose to interpret emotions differently. Yeah, it's a pretty outlandish concept at first. But, pretty much accepted in the field these days; I've seen similar descriptions in American papers since.
Last Edit: Dec 1, 2020 9:37:19 GMT -5 by petrushka
Another nugget from my adventures In psychotherapy is this: feelings are not reality. Emotions are not reality.
Feelings like fear and sadness may or may not be based on reality. They may just be subconscious reactions coming from our reptilian brain based on who knows what.
It's best to consciously consider feelings (especially negative ones) with a touch of detachment and then decide whether we should allow them to drive our moods.
This is related to mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy.
This is really interesting saarinista. I’ve been dealing with this quite a bit over the past 6 months or so. I’m challenged with consciously considering my feelings with detachment. I’m very grateful for good friends who help me with this.
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