I wanted to post this for the women and couples that might experience this problem.
Thanks. Super approachable. I'd heard of pelvic floor massage for this issue. Wondered if my wife needed some of this.
I speculated that it was this simple (gradual insertion of increasingly wide, well-lubed dilators) but other materials I found were vague. This is not a "trade secret" that should be guarded. Why did this woman have to go through group therapy and fifty effing appointments to get her vaginal massage? What about women who have no insurance (or really tight fisted, chincy plans)? They just suffer forever? It's so eff'd up. (or NOT eff'd up?)
She had weekly therapy, but she had relapses if she went more than a few days without dilating. Wasn't she fully reversing in the week between sessions? Would she have been better off starting the dilators immediately? Hard to see how that wouldn't be the case, given her experience after therapy finished. Heck, the insurance company might be able to pay for fewer sessions with earlier "self-care" initiation. Win-win. I lament the unscientific approach to health care sometimes.
I was in another SM group similar to ILIASM and one guy went to individual therapy because his W didn't like sex. During individual therapy, the guy decided he really was a woman so he had the sex change surgery. After she healed from the surgery, she started using gradually increasing in size dilators. He to she posted every few days what the sex change therapy and surgery entailed to get back to a new normal for her.
This person first sexual partner was another woman and then she started dating a guy and was living with him and still having the first GF as a play date.
Anyway, the dilators worked for one person without additional therapy. Maybe motivation works better than therapy sessions.
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