Post by phantom44 on Sept 30, 2020 16:25:23 GMT -5
Thanks for the feedback and replies. Just more to mull over. I appreciate the insight.
Step 1. Is i'm no longer in denial about my role in my life.
Step2. I am responsible for my happiness. I'm kindof stuck because of money. I've been trying for years to figure out how to make money again. I started working at 14 years old, so i'm not afraid of work. But as soon as I think I can do it, wham my illness will knock me down for days. literally.
I can't imagine many people hiring a guy that they can't count on to even show up. I met a psychiatrist at a support meeting. And she had to quit working. And I asked her nicely why? Don't you just sit and listen to other peoples problems? She told me just doing that was to much for her, and she worked from home. And she had a Medical Degree. That put a damper on me finding work. All I have is a Construction background, I worked my way up to Foreman. But that does me no good now.
Step 3 I set some boundaries a few days ago. And she didn't say a word, she doesn't push me around or intimidated me.
It all reads like you have been a passive observer of your own life Brother phantom44 .
And your missus has made all the major choices in this deal with you tagging along behind.
And your missus has made all the major choices in this deal with you tagging along behind.
My wife see's i'm changing, so now she's always asking me if I love her. And she's tells me alot that she loves me and ask me if I believe her? I usually say "no I don't think you even know what love is. Quit saying it and show it. Love is an action" Then she pouts for a while.
She knows..."she is always saying that I don't treat her like I love her" "I tell her i'm tired of talking about it, you still have your butler and handyman around so no need to worry" "I actually went so far as to tell her if the opportunity for me to get laid came up that i would and I wouldn't feel like it's cheating" "Because you have no right to expect me to become a monk" " you need to figure out what is wrong and fix it".