Post by greatcoastal on Sept 20, 2020 17:52:46 GMT -5
Short version:
1) My woman saw a car, just like mine ,and wondered "why didn't he say hello to me? I was waving at him?"
2) He's supposed to be home, not working today?
3) His work shoes are sitting in the bedroom when I got home? What's going on? where is he?
I was called into work on my day off. I was asked to come in early. I grabbed the wrong shoes that morning trying to get out the door early. My car was at the office all day. I drove 465 miles in an 18 wheeler that day. Coincidence that there was another car, like mine a few miles from the house. ( even with a small dent in the bottom back door,just like mine!)
When my woman called me around 11 o'clock and asked me " where are you?" " I saw your car this morning?" "Your work shoes are still here?" I could sense an upset tone in her voice. I explained the shoes. I explained the early call to work. I explained, down to the minute ,everywhere I had been that day ( I even took pictures). I could NOT explain the coincidence of a dented car, just like mine!
I had two thoughts going through my head. One was, " not my problem, she's wrong, I'm innocent. Is this something I want in our future? To be wrongly accused?"
My other thought was " this is not like her. This really bothers her. I wonder what has happened to her ,in the past, to feel scared that she can't trust someone? I want to give her as much empathy and understanding as possible".
Well, I calmly went over with her all that I did that day, how I wished I had my waterproof,steel toe work shoes that day, how I didn't even realize that I was wearing different shoes until I climbed in my truck. Where I was when she called me (pics included. an unusual day for me, one worthy of a few pics) AND... MOST IMPORTANT " I'm sorry for what has happened to you in the past. I understand your fear in trusting someone... a man. Thank you for trusting me. I want you to feel safe in giving me your trust. I don't take that lightly. I value it highly!"
I received a smile and the words " if I come home and find your work shoes here, I'm going to wonder where you are". Sigh... I better not wear the wrong shoes again!!
All part of new relationships after recovering from broken ones.
The following morning I was in the company car with my boss, and I explained to him, about telling my woman where I was that day. He reassured me that I was not alone and that I handled it well. He said, " when ever I have to work late I skype my wife, so she can see exactly where I am, and what I am doing. Precisely because of what has happened to her in the past. I want her to feel secure and to trust me."
1) My woman saw a car, just like mine ,and wondered "why didn't he say hello to me? I was waving at him?"
2) He's supposed to be home, not working today?
3) His work shoes are sitting in the bedroom when I got home? What's going on? where is he?
I was called into work on my day off. I was asked to come in early. I grabbed the wrong shoes that morning trying to get out the door early. My car was at the office all day. I drove 465 miles in an 18 wheeler that day. Coincidence that there was another car, like mine a few miles from the house. ( even with a small dent in the bottom back door,just like mine!)
When my woman called me around 11 o'clock and asked me " where are you?" " I saw your car this morning?" "Your work shoes are still here?" I could sense an upset tone in her voice. I explained the shoes. I explained the early call to work. I explained, down to the minute ,everywhere I had been that day ( I even took pictures). I could NOT explain the coincidence of a dented car, just like mine!
I had two thoughts going through my head. One was, " not my problem, she's wrong, I'm innocent. Is this something I want in our future? To be wrongly accused?"
My other thought was " this is not like her. This really bothers her. I wonder what has happened to her ,in the past, to feel scared that she can't trust someone? I want to give her as much empathy and understanding as possible".
Well, I calmly went over with her all that I did that day, how I wished I had my waterproof,steel toe work shoes that day, how I didn't even realize that I was wearing different shoes until I climbed in my truck. Where I was when she called me (pics included. an unusual day for me, one worthy of a few pics) AND... MOST IMPORTANT " I'm sorry for what has happened to you in the past. I understand your fear in trusting someone... a man. Thank you for trusting me. I want you to feel safe in giving me your trust. I don't take that lightly. I value it highly!"
I received a smile and the words " if I come home and find your work shoes here, I'm going to wonder where you are". Sigh... I better not wear the wrong shoes again!!
All part of new relationships after recovering from broken ones.
The following morning I was in the company car with my boss, and I explained to him, about telling my woman where I was that day. He reassured me that I was not alone and that I handled it well. He said, " when ever I have to work late I skype my wife, so she can see exactly where I am, and what I am doing. Precisely because of what has happened to her in the past. I want her to feel secure and to trust me."
