When having sex with your spouse becomes a risk.

greatcoastal Senior Members Thanks for the Birthday wishes! Dinner with a friend tonight and B.D dance with the ladies! Posts: 6,727 Age Range: 56-60	When having sex with your spouse becomes a risk. Aug 5, 2020 9:34:48 GMT -5 itme, jamesbonding, and 2 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by greatcoastal on Aug 5, 2020 9:34:48 GMT -5 intimacyinmarriage.com/2020/08/04/is-sexually-pursuing-your-spouse-risky-for-you/?fbclid=IwAR0d_bExNFWWtoo2MvPyv1i9Sp7xioZBd3HcV9RKtaepZRP6ElFvBh2Tlgw
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When having sex with your spouse becomes a risk. Aug 5, 2020 15:21:04 GMT -5

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Aug 5, 2020 9:34:48 GMT -5 greatcoastal said:

intimacyinmarriage.com/2020/08/04/is-sexually-pursuing-your-spouse-risky-for-you/?fbclid=IwAR0d_bExNFWWtoo2MvPyv1i9Sp7xioZBd3HcV9RKtaepZRP6ElFvBh2Tlgw

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When having sex with your spouse becomes a risk. Aug 5, 2020 21:02:48 GMT -5 greatcoastal likes this

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......for some people, pursuing their spouse sexually is quite risky, full of repercussions that may last well beyond the moment the bid is shot down.

That is a good article even without any mention of God or religion.

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When having sex with your spouse becomes a risk. Aug 26, 2020 6:24:32 GMT -5 darktippedrose and itme like this

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Aug 25, 2020 7:11:57 GMT -5 itme said:

“And maybe…just maybe…your spouse will have a moment of humble courage to own what they’ve done. And to make efforts to heal the pain.”

LOL 😐

Sadly ,for most of us on this forum, it's not even a "maybe". It's the realization that our spouse will ALWAYS pull DARVO on us. Starting with their complete denial that they have done anything wrong ,by avoiding ,reversing and making us the offender and them the victim. Constantly burying their own fears and problems.

I like articles like these , because ....the wording is so much better than mine! It truly expresses what my wants, needs, desires,and natural instincts where (and still are) in a marriage.

Here's to new beginnings!!

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mirrororchid: Heard on a podcast: "Dating is where we present our best selves. Vulnerability is the opposite. Where we risk our partner knowing things that are imperfect. This is the way to forge the life partner bond." Sept 10, 2024 19:17:03 GMT -5

week5of35years: My Wife had 30 free mins before she had to start work this AM... I said.. "lets have a quick shag" and she said she was going to walk the dog instead.... Still work to do.... Sept 17, 2024 3:51:34 GMT -5

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When having sex with your spouse becomes a risk.

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