For many years, I rode a roller coaster ranging from “I can manage without” to “Holy crap, I need out at any cost!”, each lasting a few weeks.
lessingham, if you really are “over it”, then I suppose it leaves you with a more viable option of staying. But from what I recall, W does not treat you well regardless, so it may not be relevant to your plans at all.
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Post by ScottDinTN on Aug 26, 2020 23:02:26 GMT -5
I have finally reached the point too where I no longer want sex from my wife. If she asked for it, I would say no. It's not worth the emotions that come with it.
To me, its like she's Lucy and I'm Charlie Brown. I kept fooling myself into thinking one of the days she wouldn't pull away the football. I finally realized thats just who she is and I'm not going to play her game any more.
There is a feeling of power that comes with being able to say that and mean it. She will NEVER refuse me again. Because I will never ask.
Scott, Many people feel like Charlie Brown. That cartoon is a good way to explain the problems in a non-sexual way.
There is a feeling of power that comes with being able to say that and mean it.
y thinking is fool me once, shame ou you. Fool me twice, shame on me. I value my decisions more than my W's when it comes to no sex so not trying to have sex helps me not feel the disappointments of her saying no (wiggling out of the option to have sex) or the star fish sex that is disappointing.
My question is how would it go down if you informed your spouse at some random moment that your sexual desire for him or her has ended? What would likely happen next?
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