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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 19, 2020 18:17:59 GMT -5
My relationship with my partner is going on 2 years now, sex and intimacy is a daily part of our relationship. My children (now older teens and adults) are almost out of the picture. What WE would like is to find new relationships with other couples that have a sex marriage/relationship. Not more sexless/toxic,room mate status, families and relationships. We seem to be surrounded by such dead relationships, neighbors, coworkers,clients,fellow church members,etc.... Adding all the recent covid 19 does not help. I/we are not looking for sex or to hook up with other couples. I simply want others who can share being intimate with each other ,around others. To not feel embarrassed or ashamed to admitting that they actually enjoy sex/intimacy and do it often! I am still,very paranoid about being 'influenced' by too many other dead bedroom relationships. I allowed that to become 'the norm' in the past. Again, not looking for a kink relationship to have sex with other couples,. How do you go about 'finding' such people to be friends with? Life goes on with "just the two of us" with little regret, for now  Ps:I find this question goes along with no. 2,3,4,5. From the below article. of this article: www.divorcemag.com/blog/ways-to-recover-from-an-abusive-relationship-after-divorce |
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Post by saarinista on Jul 20, 2020 10:32:38 GMT -5
Meetup app? Got neighbors you could invite over? I dunno. It's hard to make friends. Just look for people you have stuff in common with and invite over for a party.
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 22, 2020 0:19:51 GMT -5
I’ve found that online meetup groups in my interest areas have helped me find comparable friends during this quarantine.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 22, 2020 19:39:35 GMT -5
I would agree, that meetup groups could be a good place to meet such friends.
After my divorce I did look into meetup groups and went to several. However it seemed to boil down to 2 categories. Sports- bicycling, hiking,fishing, surfing, kayaking,volleyball, basketball,etc.. (never been an athlete or a big sports fan). Then there was dating, eating out,( mostly bars- we don't drink.)
I was thinking about volunteering at the local H.S. Maybe Friday night football? Concession stands? Tickets, etc... (covid 19 ended much of that) A group of H.S. parents would be close to our age category.
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Post by jamesbonding on Jul 23, 2020 3:09:21 GMT -5
Maybe it's time to find another church, or another, more sex-positive religion! Other than that... attend activities that have lots of couples, for example cooking classes, dance groups, a local university's international club events (in my experience, lots of older couples attend and are welcome), public festivals. While you still have kids in school, attend school events. Keep an eye out for couples who hold hands, put their arms around each other's backs, etc. and who both seem happy, comfortable, and relaxed in each other's company. That's not a guarantee that they have a sexful relationship, but it at least seems to indicate a relationship that they are happy with.
My parents were like that (arms around each other, happy marriage for more than 60 years, 'til death did them part). I don't see a lot of other couples like that, but it does warm my heart when I see them. I'll never forget one time I attended a public physics lecture. After the lecture, some of us went to dinner with the physics professor, and the discussions continued. At one point someone asked the professor what his hobbies were. He didn't say anything, just put both of his hands on his wife's shoulders (who was sitting next to him) and gave her a gentle shake. She smiled and seemed happy. Yes, heartwarming. I was happy for them.
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Post by lwoetin on Jul 29, 2020 22:12:57 GMT -5
Keep an eye out for couples who hold hands, put their arms around each other's backs, etc. and who both seem happy, comfortable, and relaxed in each other's company. That's not a guarantee that they have a sexful relationship, but it at least seems to indicate a relationship that they are happy with.
My parents were like that (arms around each other, happy marriage for more than 60 years, 'til death did them part). I don't see a lot of other couples like that, but it does warm my heart when I see them. I'll never forget one time I attended a public physics lecture. After the lecture, some of us went to dinner with the physics professor, and the discussions continued. At one point someone asked the professor what his hobbies were. He didn't say anything, just put both of his hands on his wife's shoulders (who was sitting next to him) and gave her a gentle shake. She smiled and seemed happy. Yes, heartwarming. I was happy for them.
I'm not buying this. A physics professor? They just look too academic. Maybe he just enjoys spending time with his wife. Other than studying physics. I have no clue which couples are sucsexful. Noone I encounter seems to be talking about it. Which is just fine with me cause I would be quite uncomfortable talking about sucsexless status. |
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