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Post by worksforme2 on Jun 26, 2020 13:16:42 GMT -5
I sometimes look at who is on the site and how many members or staff are also on. There are always way more "guests" than members viewing. Considering that everyone is anonymous why do you think so many people just lurk and never take the time to tell their story or actively seek specific advice for their SM situation.
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Post by Handy on Jun 26, 2020 20:02:31 GMT -5
Worksforme2
why do you think so many people just lurk and never take the time to tell their story
1. I have read that people "think" they will be recognized so they don't post.
2. Some people think they are betraying their spouse if they talk about what is wrong with their mate.
3. I suppose some people don't have the best or worst marriage and want to compare their life with others.
4. Some people just want to know how other people live and what problems they face.
5. Some people think about leaving their marriage and want to know what future issues will crop up that they didn't think of.
6. Some people want to see how divorce and dating works out.
7. Some people think their spouse might find out what the member of ILIASM forum said so they are reluctant to be found out and want to avoid an argument.
8. But I think the number one reason people read forums like ILIASM is they want to fix their partner. Why those people don't post is a mystery to me.
I often count the number of people that do not post
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Post by lessingham on Jun 27, 2020 3:29:12 GMT -5
Maybe there are also those hunting? A web site devoted to sexually frustrated people must lure some weird types who think they can get lucky? Personally I hunt for someone who can cure my awful spelling.
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Post by Handy on Jun 27, 2020 8:50:23 GMT -5
Lessingham Maybe there are also those hunting? [/b]
Getting lucky (connecting) with a ILIASM member is really sketchy because most people live so far apart. Well for me any way.
I could see myself fancying some ILIASM female members if the interest was mutual and we lived in relatively close proximity but distance makes that unlikely in reality.
Maybe it (meeting a member) might work in highly populated areas, but for me and where I live it might be 50+ miles to the next small town.
My next question is, Has anyone gotten a PM from a non-poster? If so, what type of message was it? I remember a woman on another forum that got a blackmail message threatining to expose her to her H, from someone.
Maybe the people that do not post are checking on their spouse. I have heard of that happening a couple of times.
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Post by jim44444 on Jun 27, 2020 18:33:22 GMT -5
As far as the number of guests visiting our site the number is misleading.
Every time I log in I first show up as a guest until I go through the login process. I assume it is the same for each of us. Which means the number of guests per day will be equal or greater than the number of members logging in.
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Post by Handy on Jun 27, 2020 20:52:53 GMT -5
I an not too hung up on "guests" but my comments were about people that register but never post.
Today we had westendgir+ registered on Nov 23 2018 with zero posts. The same with amazingk+ registered on Aug 22, 2016 with zero posts.
+ indicates female
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 28, 2020 10:57:30 GMT -5
Handy, there are sections that can only be read if you’re logged in. That’s probably why people signup even if they don’t want to post. Edit: Also, I always sign in to read because I like that it tracks what threads I’ve read and flags new ones for me. That’s another reason to have an account even if you don’t post.
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Post by Handy on Jun 28, 2020 11:28:02 GMT -5
Drycreek, I was aware that ILIASM has a section that can only be read if a person logs in. This "members only" feature is common among many forums.
Without the open forum anyone can read, there probably would not be enough new members to keep a forum going long term.
I was on a forum that is essentially dead. It might have 5 to 10 new posts a year. People lose interest or move on with their life. New posters are an essential part of a forum's survival.
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