Post by worksforme2 on Jun 26, 2020 13:16:42 GMT -5
I sometimes look at who is on the site and how many members or staff are also on. There are always way more "guests" than members viewing. Considering that everyone is anonymous why do you think so many people just lurk and never take the time to tell their story or actively seek specific advice for their SM situation.
Worksforme2 why do you think so many people just lurk and never take the time to tell their story
1. I have read that people "think" they will be recognized so they don't post. 2. Some people think they are betraying their spouse if they talk about what is wrong with their mate. 3. I suppose some people don't have the best or worst marriage and want to compare their life with others. 4. Some people just want to know how other people live and what problems they face. 5. Some people think about leaving their marriage and want to know what future issues will crop up that they didn't think of. 6. Some people want to see how divorce and dating works out. 7. Some people think their spouse might find out what the member of ILIASM forum said so they are reluctant to be found out and want to avoid an argument.
8. But I think the number one reason people read forums like ILIASM is they want to fix their partner. Why those people don't post is a mystery to me.
I often count the number of people that do not post
Maybe there are also those hunting? A web site devoted to sexually frustrated people must lure some weird types who think they can get lucky? Personally I hunt for someone who can cure my awful spelling.
Getting lucky (connecting) with a ILIASM member is really sketchy because most people live so far apart. Well for me any way.
I could see myself fancying some ILIASM female members if the interest was mutual and we lived in relatively close proximity but distance makes that unlikely in reality.
Maybe it (meeting a member) might work in highly populated areas, but for me and where I live it might be 50+ miles to the next small town.
My next question is, Has anyone gotten a PM from a non-poster? If so, what type of message was it? I remember a woman on another forum that got a blackmail message threatining to expose her to her H, from someone.
Maybe the people that do not post are checking on their spouse. I have heard of that happening a couple of times.
As far as the number of guests visiting our site the number is misleading. Every time I log in I first show up as a guest until I go through the login process. I assume it is the same for each of us. Which means the number of guests per day will be equal or greater than the number of members logging in.
"Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity."
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
worksforme2: some better and some worse,..virus seems to be slowing down, but people are beginning to refuse to stay inside,...worst thing I see is Biden leading in the election poles,...but that could be fake news
Apr 20, 2020 16:56:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Politics? Is that what we want to happen here?
Apr 21, 2020 6:21:24 GMT -5
petrushka: Certainly not American style politics. Toxic echo chambers.
Apr 23, 2020 16:21:52 GMT -5
petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5
worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5
grower: Your life clock is ticking away, don't waste all your time. Live some.
Jul 24, 2020 9:53:20 GMT -5
fred: blue guy, i was where you are 30 years ago. stayed.................nothing changed. if i didn't love this nice lady so much i'd be in deep regret. if she doesn't think of you in a hundred "other" ways (as does my wife) GET OUT ! Life is short
Aug 10, 2020 17:43:15 GMT -5
jerri: Yuk on the plucking chicken feathers. If a chicken doesn't get sex and intimacy she just finds a beautiful cock sooner or later. I'd say there's a much higher "philandering" rate than anyone would care to admit. The rooster who is tormented findsa chicken!
Sept 10, 2020 8:23:56 GMT -5
csl: And yet, there is an entire segment of ILIASM stayers.
Sept 10, 2020 22:04:05 GMT -5
jerri: Exactly I have read multiple threads. I was very impressed with all the different solutions everyone has found. Intellectual group and the camaraderie is nice
Sept 11, 2020 9:44:57 GMT -5
Handy: What happened to being light outside until 9:30 PM? It is 7:30 PM and dark now.
Sept 20, 2020 20:46:01 GMT -5
jerri: It's not hot there? I am getting a slight break from the heat! Cheer up buddy!
Sept 21, 2020 0:27:37 GMT -5
petrushka: Well WE are getting closer to summer. Just passed Equinox. I expect the solar panels will start paying for themselves again in the near future. (over the last few months they have merely mitigated the power bills).
Sept 21, 2020 21:00:36 GMT -5