Thank you so much for that greatcoastal, it was exactly what I needed.
All the points in that article are exactly what my wife throws back at me. Particularly the one about relationships being 'hard work'. I always felt that it was a lie and found it hard to articulate exactly why but this puts my thoughts into words precisely.
I have just arranged to see a solicitor to discuss where I stand with respect to a divorce, and already having doubts around all the things this discusses - have we really tried hard enough? will the children suffer? will I regret it? I was actually just about to write a post along those lines for a bit of support, might still do.
Strange how something like this comes along just at the right time. Thanks again.
Wow greatcoastal that certainly packed a punch, almost all of it reflected my thinking when I arrived here.
It is sobering to find that those isolating feelings that feel unique to you and your lonely predicament are actually very normal responses to this horrible way to live. I could have saved myself more than a decade of unhappiness had I realised that I was avoiding and not accommodating.
I agree essential reading for people who find themselves here. It should be taught in schools!
Post by gladifoundthisforum on Dec 4, 2020 11:02:24 GMT -5
I've just read it
I feel strangely .....scared? (like the feeling of 'walking up to the headmaster's office when you've misbehaved at school'- wobbly stomach feeling) Or possibly strangely 'lighter'? hmmmmmm.... great article.
Far too bloody British to have been able to talk about anything a little bit personal.......!
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