Thank you so much for that greatcoastal, it was exactly what I needed.
All the points in that article are exactly what my wife throws back at me. Particularly the one about relationships being 'hard work'. I always felt that it was a lie and found it hard to articulate exactly why but this puts my thoughts into words precisely.
I have just arranged to see a solicitor to discuss where I stand with respect to a divorce, and already having doubts around all the things this discusses - have we really tried hard enough? will the children suffer? will I regret it? I was actually just about to write a post along those lines for a bit of support, might still do.
Strange how something like this comes along just at the right time. Thanks again.
Wow greatcoastal that certainly packed a punch, almost all of it reflected my thinking when I arrived here.
It is sobering to find that those isolating feelings that feel unique to you and your lonely predicament are actually very normal responses to this horrible way to live. I could have saved myself more than a decade of unhappiness had I realised that I was avoiding and not accommodating.
I agree essential reading for people who find themselves here. It should be taught in schools!
Post by gladifoundthisforum on Dec 4, 2020 11:02:24 GMT -5
I've just read it
I feel strangely .....scared? (like the feeling of 'walking up to the headmaster's office when you've misbehaved at school'- wobbly stomach feeling) Or possibly strangely 'lighter'? hmmmmmm.... great article.
Far too bloody British to have been able to talk about anything a little bit personal.......!
mirrororchid: Thanks, Isthisit. Celebrating the day we broke from the UK and chose to govern ourselves! Looking like a less good idea the last 50 years, but a little late. The Brits might say, "No backsies."
Jul 7, 2021 18:03:59 GMT -5
Handy: Petrushka, How is your knee replacement recovery going?
Jul 15, 2021 0:22:34 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hope you are OK Tamara 68.....
Jul 16, 2021 11:11:59 GMT -5
petrushka: Handy it is going. Still painful. First session with the physio yesterday and he was enthusiastic about my range of movement, and says many people never even get that far after the full 6 weeks physio. OK, I'll take it ;-) but it still hurts. A lot.
Jul 16, 2021 15:58:37 GMT -5
petrushka: I was concerned about some things, like how far I can [not] lift my leg, straightened, but he allayed my worries on that account. Seems I'm not at all behind the curve.
Jul 16, 2021 16:02:27 GMT -5
Handy: Petrushka, I am happy to hear your range of motion is still decent. My W had knee surgery so I was aware of at least most of her rehabilitation difficulties. Yes, it still hurts big time for you but seeing my W's recovery, it takes time and exercising.
Jul 16, 2021 17:05:15 GMT -5
njsojourner: I hope everyone is well! Thought I would share that I am still having a blast outsourcing. I now have a regular fuck buddy and she is great. Same situation as me but a few years younger. In fact, her sex drive is crazier than mine and stranger.
Jul 16, 2021 21:50:15 GMT -5
njsojourner: Hi all. I thought I’d just share I am still having a blast — I now have a regular fuck buddy. She is younger by 6 years and full of energy and into fetishes-she likes to “force” me to have sex in public places —I love it.
Jul 16, 2021 21:54:49 GMT -5
tamara68: worksforme2: I am ok, thank you. The floods in Belgium are about 50 or 60 miles from where I live. The worst floods in decades.
Jul 17, 2021 8:54:44 GMT -5
Handy: I looked up several pages about the European floods and I saw pictures of what were possibly small streams before the floods but with all of the rain, became fast moving rivers that overflow the river banks and took everything for a wild ride.
Jul 19, 2021 15:13:23 GMT -5
petrushka: Oh man, if a river excavates 20-30 feet DOWN you have a bit of a weather event on your hands all right!
Jul 19, 2021 21:39:01 GMT -5