Hi all, I've been lurking reading a lot of posts and decided to join in. My name is Brian I am 38 years old been married for 13 years and have lived in a relatively sexless marriage for 12 of them. After reading a lot of posts and going to counseling I cannot believe how much in common my sm is with everyone else on these boards. thank you for letting me join in on the discussions!
Post by worksforme2 on Feb 2, 2020 11:06:27 GMT -5
Welcome brianbk,...Sorry you find yourself here, but there is a wealth of information and experience to draw on as you navigate your way through your SM. Hopefully you will find somethings of value to you and your marriage in your reading and time spent here.
I too was blown away by the common threads found among the membership here. Not sure if you are doing marriage counseling or individual counseling but my advice is don’t hold back. Spill it all, and don’t be afraid to fire the counselor and find another if you aren’t getting positive results.
Post by workingonit on Feb 2, 2020 21:52:19 GMT -5
Welcome brianbk ! It is a crappy club we are all forced into but there is solace in community. Feel free to start a thread elsewhere and spill your full story. There is good feedback to be found here as well.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5