Post by angeleyes65 on Jan 18, 2020 9:52:22 GMT -5
fish Welcome. And your situation sounds soul draining at best. As far as age I left at 52 had never lived on my own. And it is so much better. Also as far as the kids. I'm sure you wouldn't want them getting into or staying in an abusive marriage or a loveless marriage and that's what you have been modeling for them. Financial I can't really speak to much but see a lawyer not sure what the situation is where you live but if the kids are in school and you do 50/50 custody I wouldn't think it would be too bad. She would just have to get a job. Also not sure if house is paid for or lots of equity, kids almost grown all that should cut down on financial down falls. Also maybe if you site abuse she may not get alimony but again I'm not real knowledgeable in the legal department. Best of luck to you!
Post by worksforme2 on Jan 18, 2020 10:10:21 GMT -5
Seeing an attorney is an excellent start. When I was prepping for a separation/ divorce I 1st saw a couple of attorneys. I learned divorce would not be catastrophic for me and so I went into the discussions with my then W armed with the knowledge of how I probably would come out of it. This helped enable me to be generous toward her as we talked separation. We were able to pretty much settle everything ourselves and only needed an attorney to walk the paperwork through the court process. We were able to part on friendly terms and we remain friends. I say this because divorce doesn't have to be a war. If both of you can put aside the animosity and take into consideration what's best for both of you and the kids then the outcome can be positive, something that was lacking in the marriage. Good luck
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5