Post by thebaffledking on Dec 12, 2019 5:02:22 GMT -5
Wow, haven't been here in many moons. Just stopped in to see how everyone's doing, and to give another update. So it's been 18 months since I walked out of fifteen years in hell (out of 33 total together - there HAD been a number of very good years!) It took about a year to 'believe' I'd actually made it out, that's how hard it was.....probably not unlike someone who's spent years in prison and is finally freed. Nonetheless, I was exhilirated from the moment I finally opened my mouth. It felt like being born again, not without pain but ultimately astonishing. I'd met someone on the old EP about six years ago, and that mutual instant connection finally gave me the strength to leave and live. We just got engaged a couple of weeks ago and will be married in January. We have such a close bond. The physicality is unlike anything I've ever known. We just flat out enjoy each others company every day, every way. This is what lay on 'the other side'. I'm never one to 'push' people to leave, but my gawd. I'm glad I paid attention to all of the advice and stories and inspiration I received and read over the years. The rest of my life is shaping up to be better than I could have ever imagined.
Staying or Leaving, I wish you all the Happiest of Holidays!
In the betrayal of his love he awakened To face a world of cold reality
It is quite remarkable how many escapees from ILIASM shitholes say the same thing as you Brother thebaffledking .....
.... "The rest of my life is shaping up to be better than I could have ever imagined" (or words to that effect).
Whereas there are no guarantees about the direction your life might go after you get out of your ILIASM deal, the first hand testimony of those that have taken the leaving choice invariably report good outcomes. And personally, I've never seen a post from an ILIASM escapee saying - "I left, it was a big mistake and I wish I was back in that ILIASM shithole.
This is NOT to suggest a headlong charge to the exit by the membership.
But it IS to suggest that the risk an escapee runs of being unhappier after getting out, is negligible in the longer term.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
worksforme2: Since our esteemed governor has declared a state of emergency here in NC (a total of 12 cases so far) the hording of toilet paper has begun. Is diarrhea a part of covid 19? I see Lowes and Home Depot have quick install toilet retro fit bidets.
Mar 13, 2020 10:34:57 GMT -5
petrushka: I've no idea what it is with the toilet paper hoarding. I walked out of a supermarket yesterday and saw a woman with the jumbo sized trolley and some 4x 18 roll packs of toilet paper. Nuts. Completely nuts. Incidentally, a bidet is definitely the way to go
Mar 14, 2020 6:18:43 GMT -5
petrushka: Even her little 5 or 6 year old was questioning her purchase!
Mar 14, 2020 6:25:44 GMT -5
petrushka: One of my favourite quotes for the last 30 years: "don't ever look a sheep in the eyes, the intellectual vacuum may suck your brains out". Well, let's all drink to the sheeple! (besides, alcohol is a good disinfectant).
Mar 14, 2020 6:31:26 GMT -5
frednsa: so...............i'd like to tell her when she "attempts to placate me": have you ever been invited to a party where you knew for certain that you WEREN'T wanted ?
Mar 19, 2020 15:57:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Former Miss Hawaii tests positive. Being the gallant lad that I am I have offered her the use of my guest bedroom to "shelter in place"..
Mar 23, 2020 20:34:21 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey tamara68, there is a covid19 positive cat in Belgium, watch out for it.
Mar 30, 2020 14:05:56 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme I think I have to be more careful for all infected people. Most likely I already have Covid19
Apr 1, 2020 3:29:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: tamara68.....it's been a couple weeks since you posted you may have the covid19 virus. hopefully you are feeling better and are on your way to renewed health
Apr 11, 2020 5:31:38 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme thanks, yes I am feeling better. How is it in the USA?
Apr 14, 2020 1:57:26 GMT -5
worksforme2: some better and some worse,..virus seems to be slowing down, but people are beginning to refuse to stay inside,...worst thing I see is Biden leading in the election poles,...but that could be fake news
Apr 20, 2020 16:56:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Politics? Is that what we want to happen here?
Apr 21, 2020 6:21:24 GMT -5
petrushka: Certainly not American style politics. Toxic echo chambers.
Apr 23, 2020 16:21:52 GMT -5
petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5
worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5