Post by thebaffledking on Dec 12, 2019 5:02:22 GMT -5
Wow, haven't been here in many moons. Just stopped in to see how everyone's doing, and to give another update. So it's been 18 months since I walked out of fifteen years in hell (out of 33 total together - there HAD been a number of very good years!) It took about a year to 'believe' I'd actually made it out, that's how hard it was.....probably not unlike someone who's spent years in prison and is finally freed. Nonetheless, I was exhilirated from the moment I finally opened my mouth. It felt like being born again, not without pain but ultimately astonishing. I'd met someone on the old EP about six years ago, and that mutual instant connection finally gave me the strength to leave and live. We just got engaged a couple of weeks ago and will be married in January. We have such a close bond. The physicality is unlike anything I've ever known. We just flat out enjoy each others company every day, every way. This is what lay on 'the other side'. I'm never one to 'push' people to leave, but my gawd. I'm glad I paid attention to all of the advice and stories and inspiration I received and read over the years. The rest of my life is shaping up to be better than I could have ever imagined.
Staying or Leaving, I wish you all the Happiest of Holidays!
In the betrayal of his love he awakened To face a world of cold reality
It is quite remarkable how many escapees from ILIASM shitholes say the same thing as you Brother thebaffledking .....
.... "The rest of my life is shaping up to be better than I could have ever imagined" (or words to that effect).
Whereas there are no guarantees about the direction your life might go after you get out of your ILIASM deal, the first hand testimony of those that have taken the leaving choice invariably report good outcomes. And personally, I've never seen a post from an ILIASM escapee saying - "I left, it was a big mistake and I wish I was back in that ILIASM shithole.
This is NOT to suggest a headlong charge to the exit by the membership.
But it IS to suggest that the risk an escapee runs of being unhappier after getting out, is negligible in the longer term.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
petrushka: In my world view, you are buying into some really shitty memes there.
Nov 5, 2019 17:25:20 GMT -5
apocrypha: The "feminist agenda" has changed across the past 60 years. Some feminists of the 60's call the current iteration "fainting couch feminism", thinking it a subversion and betrayal of women's lib. Hard to get a bead on what folks think, using a broad label.
Nov 8, 2019 9:37:14 GMT -5
apocrypha: No aspect of that article (which I amount to a magazine offering bad diet advice) promotes rape, coercion (beyond seduction), sexual assault, and I don't understand your public performance suggesting that they would be and thus implicating bfar.
Nov 8, 2019 9:41:51 GMT -5
mirrororchid: pfar, being sensitive means understanding how others think and feel. It doesn't mean you are compelled to adopt their thoughts and feelings. This is a matter of understanding people including loved ones. If you aren't sensitive, you lack tools to
Nov 11, 2019 8:09:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: live well. You need not soften, but you should be able to understand vulnerability. Recognizing others' distress provides me with cues when I need to use self-control or extend help. If you're strong, you should be helping others. Use what works.
Nov 11, 2019 8:14:06 GMT -5
worksforme2: You know who I miss ...I miss smartkat and andie..and snowman 12345
Nov 14, 2019 9:16:44 GMT -5