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cagedadventurer Full Member Posts: 181 Age Range: 51-55	Dysfunctional Marriage Does Your Head In. May 30, 2016 23:52:22 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by cagedadventurer on May 30, 2016 23:52:22 GMT -5 Yes JMX, following through, I meant to add to my last comment "yet for all the promises, ILIASM! The same pain today as from the first month of refusals".

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Dysfunctional Marriage Does Your Head In. May 31, 2016 0:17:42 GMT -5 JMX likes this

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Post by cagedadventurer on May 31, 2016 0:17:42 GMT -5

on following through, yes. What I meant to add to my last comment was ... "and for all the promises and change, ILIASM!!"
The pain is the same today as it was in the first months of refusal. I should have followed through.

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Dysfunctional Marriage Does Your Head In. Jun 8, 2016 12:53:33 GMT -5 via mobile

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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2016 12:53:33 GMT -5

I have recently seen what a down and out person I have become...
Depressed whenever she is around... now that I am on the downside of life, I realize what little I have had. I had almost no sex before marriage, virtually none in marriage.... now, I would rather be alone than with her or anyone else hanging on me....and now I realize it has made me less of a person at work....all while dealing with her ridiculous moods this week.

Am I a bad spouse who never communicates... yes... I just can't deal with her shit anymore.. so I withdraw...with a messed up head...

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Dysfunctional Marriage Does Your Head In. Jun 8, 2016 14:30:12 GMT -5 via mobile greatcoastal and JonDoe like this

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Post by DryCreek on Jun 8, 2016 14:30:12 GMT -5

Jun 8, 2016 12:53:33 GMT -5 @roch649 said:

I have recently seen what a down and out person I have become...

This is one of my biggest struggles over the past 2+ decades. It's not just that I'm lacking intimacy. It's the effect it has on my motivation, aspirations, attitude at work, and attitude towards her.

My family has shared that my personality changed greatly once married. From happy and carefree, to intense and serious. At the time, I thought I was "maturing" into someone who took life more seriously and responsibly, but I now see what they meant.

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Dysfunctional Marriage Does Your Head In. Jun 8, 2016 14:42:12 GMT -5 via mobile greatcoastal likes this

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Post by Deleted on Jun 8, 2016 14:42:12 GMT -5

I think this all gets harder when I live in a city with no family...only hers.... and no friends. I have nowhere and no one to turn to in this mess... everyone is far away and/or has big enough problems of their own. I just bury my head in my own activities and responsibilities...yeah, I was once a more positive person... life with her has beaten me down.

So men who get married are supposed to live longer?...she has drastically shortened my life....

baza Senior Members Tread your own path Posts: 5,556	Dysfunctional Marriage Does Your Head In. Nov 19, 2016 6:43:06 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by baza on Nov 19, 2016 6:43:06 GMT -5 Bumped as per your comment elsewhere Dr Bamboo

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