Post by lessingham on Oct 30, 2019 10:20:22 GMT -5
I really do not like this night. I never have. Growing up it was never a big thing and the current festival seems to have been imported from America via Disney. But since kids have squat money it is aimed at adults, to splurge and dress up. I will refuse to open the door and will not dress up. I know I am a killjoy
In the 1950 most people in my community didn't have very much but managed to hand out candy cookies and fruit. Halloween was a time for me to get things I normally didn't have. On my best year I stayed out for 3 hours and got what I considered a "sizeable bag of treats."
My neighbors were religious and considered Halloween part of the devils doing but they had a "Harvest Party" which was kind of kool so I lucked out twice that year.
I enjoy it as a social event. Our geography isn’t frozen by this time of the year, so much of the neighborhood will setup shop in their driveways for a couple hours and wander to each other’s place for a chat while the kids come by. Plenty of elementary school age kids and younger out with their parents, so it’s fun.
One of our friends hosts a social event the weekend beforehand where they cover their driveway with plastic sheeting (for cleanup), provide tools, and have a massive pumpkin carving party for all their friends and neighbors in the front yard with potluck snacks.
I do miss less paranoid times as a child when we would hand-make popcorn balls to give out, or sometimes even caramel apples.
I remember when cookies, home made candy, popcorn balls and even caramel apples were never suspect as containing something harmful. I even remember drinking hot apple cider at a few places and never being concerned in our community.
Later when I was too old to go out on Halloween, I heard some dangerous things happened in some megs-cities a few years later but have since read some of the razor-blades and poison stories were just scare tactics to keep kids from going to some poorer neighborhoods.
And then there were the bold kids going out a night or two before Halloween trying to get candy over a 3 day period.
Most schools and the malls have something for the kids so I only see the neighbors and a 40 yr old developmental disabled woman with the mind of a 4 yr old on Halloween evening.
With all that said, what is left-over is mine so I just buy a small bag of Reece's Peanut Butter Cups. Come to think of it I might have some PB cups from last year.
Post by worksforme2 on Oct 31, 2019 7:59:58 GMT -5
1 of the pluses of being on a forum with members from other countries and cultures is the unexpected learning of celebrations and holidays mostly unheard of in the US. Fireworks and lighting up the neighborhood in remembrance of Guy Fawkes sounds like a great way to spend this Saturday night. Pop a few caps for me.
After the plot was revealed, Londoners began lighting celebratory bonfires, and in January 1606 an act of Parliament designated November 5 as a day of thanksgiving. Guy Fawkes Day festivities soon spread as far as the American colonies, where they became known as Pope Day. In keeping with the anti-Catholic sentiment of the time, British subjects on both sides of the Atlantic would burn an effigy of the pope. That tradition completely died out in the United States by the 19th century, whereas in Britain Guy Fawkes Day became a time to get together with friends and family, set off fireworks, light bonfires, attend parades and burn effigies of Fawkes. Children traditionally wheeled around their effigies demanding a “penny for the Guy” (a similar custom to Halloween trick-or-treating) and imploring crowds to “remember, remember the fifth of November.”
Post by northstarmom on Nov 2, 2019 20:24:17 GMT -5
Halloween is my favorite holiday. I love seeing kids in costumes and I love handing out candy. I also enjoy going to Halloween parties. I’m glad that I’m the part of Mexico I’m now in I can enjoy those plus Day of the Deaf.
Post by greatcoastal on Nov 3, 2019 8:54:19 GMT -5
Halloween has always been a wonderful time of meeting neighbors, giving, and seeing all the children. I have ALWAYS participated.
The part that 'ticks me off' is my fellow neighbors. We watched the grandmother across the street send her little 2 yr old grandaughter, and son in law, to our house and a few of the other neighbors houses. The son in law then left with his daughter. Grandma turned off all her lights and stayed in the house drinking her beer. (reminds me of a controlling refuser). My woman actually asked her about it. She told my woman " My grand daughter is happy going around getting candy, and going trick or treating but, I don't want no kids coming to my house bothering me".
Can you say " double standards?"
I had a similar thing happen with a neighbor where I used to live with my ex. They would send their 4 kids to the neighbors houses right at dinner time, then all get in the car and leave the neighborhood, returning late with bags of candy. Meanwhile their decorated house was all turned off and shut down!
I spoke with other home owners in other neighborhoods, they all said " we had a lot less kids than last year".
More and more of my neighbors no longer participate, our street is mostly dark, so less and less kids come down our street. The parents stand in the street, on their cell phones, and no longer come up to the door and say hello.
I am saving myself for Bonfire night with enough fireworks to annoy every neighbour in the street!!!!
I dreaded the weeks leading up to Bonfire Night. Boys throwing bangers around, and sometimes through the letterboxes. I’m glad we don’t have it here in the U.S. Are you still allowed to make your own Bonfire these days?
The fire works make the dogs and cats nervous and they are inside the house. The dogs don't like going outside during the Independence Day festivities. They would rather poop on the kitchen floor.
Caris, some neighbors have fire-pits about 24 inches across and no one says anything except if it is windy. Then there is a general outdoor fire ban. People even have propane gas fire pits and they are not for cooking food, just for the ambiance.
Bonfire night is going extinct. We are not really allowed bonfires any more and there is a push to ban home fireworks. Everyone is sheperded to community shows that are on the weekend nearest to the 5th,thus diluting the relevance of it. I resist, letting off annoying amounts of fireworks and eating the traditional foods. Another weird UK food for Americans, Parkin. It is a delicious ginger cake from Yorkshire and is divine.
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