I read an affair forum for a while and the women got found out less often than the men.
Reading between the lines, wives are more suspicious than husbands, most of the time, women cheaters had better cover stories and GF to back up the affair cover up, and female cheaters didn't spend as much time figuring out where to meet. Most of the male partners paid for a majority of the affair time expenses.
If a spouse is a refuser, it is easy to outsource and not get caught. Your refuser is usually not tuned into your emotional state anyway, so the signs that would be obvious to a normal spouse would be missed by a refuser. Then just have a way to pay expenses that are not traceable, and an untraceable way to communicate, and it can happen.
Post by worksforme2 on Aug 26, 2019 17:22:41 GMT -5
I would think that most wives are highly tuned into the marriage finances. Many husbands turn most of the shopping and bill paying to their wives. It would seem that if one is going to outsource then close attention must be paid to how it's financed. And little things could trip give you away. I confirmed my 1st X's infidelity following our separation when cleaning out old phone and credit card statements. We saved everything because we usually itemized our taxes. As I disposed of really old stuff I looked through the new statements. There I found phone calls to out of state motels and charges on the credit card for restaurants and gas stations in those areas. And my mom and sister confirmed they had the children on those weekends.
Post by twotimesone on Sept 9, 2019 15:59:27 GMT -5
I wrote up a thread some time ago about "Women's Infidelity, living in limbo." and a few women here didn't have exactly have a positive response about what I said. I think alot of women get away with it because many men trust their wives but not the other way around. Personally, for me, I don't fully trust my W.
This the "Shoutbox" -- basically a site-wide, group chat. (It's only visible to members.)
petrushka: I've no idea what it is with the toilet paper hoarding. I walked out of a supermarket yesterday and saw a woman with the jumbo sized trolley and some 4x 18 roll packs of toilet paper. Nuts. Completely nuts. Incidentally, a bidet is definitely the way to go
Mar 14, 2020 6:18:43 GMT -5
petrushka: Even her little 5 or 6 year old was questioning her purchase!
Mar 14, 2020 6:25:44 GMT -5
petrushka: One of my favourite quotes for the last 30 years: "don't ever look a sheep in the eyes, the intellectual vacuum may suck your brains out". Well, let's all drink to the sheeple! (besides, alcohol is a good disinfectant).
Mar 14, 2020 6:31:26 GMT -5
frednsa: so...............i'd like to tell her when she "attempts to placate me": have you ever been invited to a party where you knew for certain that you WEREN'T wanted ?
Mar 19, 2020 15:57:05 GMT -5
worksforme2: Former Miss Hawaii tests positive. Being the gallant lad that I am I have offered her the use of my guest bedroom to "shelter in place"..
Mar 23, 2020 20:34:21 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey tamara68, there is a covid19 positive cat in Belgium, watch out for it.
Mar 30, 2020 14:05:56 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme I think I have to be more careful for all infected people. Most likely I already have Covid19
Apr 1, 2020 3:29:42 GMT -5
worksforme2: tamara68.....it's been a couple weeks since you posted you may have the covid19 virus. hopefully you are feeling better and are on your way to renewed health
Apr 11, 2020 5:31:38 GMT -5
tamara68: @worksforme thanks, yes I am feeling better. How is it in the USA?
Apr 14, 2020 1:57:26 GMT -5
worksforme2: some better and some worse,..virus seems to be slowing down, but people are beginning to refuse to stay inside,...worst thing I see is Biden leading in the election poles,...but that could be fake news
Apr 20, 2020 16:56:22 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Politics? Is that what we want to happen here?
Apr 21, 2020 6:21:24 GMT -5
petrushka: Certainly not American style politics. Toxic echo chambers.
Apr 23, 2020 16:21:52 GMT -5
petrushka: However, I feel that sexual politics, including political moves that impact the relationships between gender (misogynist, misandrist, etc) definitely deserve room in this context.
Apr 23, 2020 16:22:59 GMT -5
fred: just calculated that i've spent somewhere near 19,000 days (& nights) as a "rejectee".AND that allows for 2,000+ days (& nights) on business travel apart from her. i've chosen to "stay" .....would never do that again, and can't as you see doing the math
May 15, 2020 18:01:15 GMT -5
worksforme2: 19000 days and nights,....damn dude, that's 52 yrs.
Jun 17, 2020 9:19:10 GMT -5
fred: you're a little short works - was thinking this AM, there has NEVER been a day when she indicated desire for me physically (other than for heavy lifting or finance)........LOL...........earlier, i had enough libido for both of us, now i'm left with guilt
Jun 20, 2020 13:11:12 GMT -5
fred: over imposing myself on her rather than simply leaving .....DAMN LOVE ANYWAY !
Jun 20, 2020 13:12:12 GMT -5
mesulina: update everyone, still has not happened. I have now come to accept that I will live with out. It is just different now.
Jun 29, 2020 19:32:31 GMT -5
worksforme2: Sorry mesulina,... but on the positive side you did stock up on toys a short time back,..now might be the time to go for the gusto
Jun 30, 2020 17:42:54 GMT -5
grower: Embrace a change, you will wonder why you waited so long
Jul 9, 2020 11:22:56 GMT -5