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Post by greatcoastal on May 26, 2016 11:47:17 GMT -5
I wonder, about all the people that post here and posted on EP, how many later decided to get a divorce? What the ratio would be? More men, or women? And who initiates a divorce more often, men or women?
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Post by misssunnybunny on May 26, 2016 14:17:26 GMT -5
I was the one who initiated the divorce. He was perfectly happy living in a sexless relationship: he had all his other needs met and didn't seem to care there was no sex. When we were talking about separating and how I wasn't happy, he even said to me that he was happy and figured I was, too, even though I had expressed my unhappiness with the lack of sex.
I think, statistically, women initiate divorce more often than men. Read that somewhere, can't remember where.
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Post by wewbwb on May 26, 2016 14:26:49 GMT -5
interestingly- I heard on the radio that 25% of people said if they won the lottery they would get divorced. I take that to mean 25% of people are staying together for financial reasons only.
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Post by Deleted on May 26, 2016 15:19:42 GMT -5
interestingly- I heard on the radio that 25% of people said if they won the lottery they would get divorced. I take that to mean 25% of people are staying together for financial reasons only. It's one of the main reasons I haven't initiated a divorce. The first 10 years of our marriage, I supported us. When I got laid off (and went back to college for a different degree) h was supposed to do the same. We're in that holding pattern right now, and our money is tied up in our business. So, yeah... |
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Post by wewbwb on May 26, 2016 15:23:24 GMT -5
I feel the same way - I was thinking- "hell, I find a nickel...."
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Post by baza on May 26, 2016 18:48:31 GMT -5
@ greatcoastal.
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"If" the old EP/sexless marriage group is anything to go by, then these scenarios play out thus.
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Most new members "lurk" and never post a thing. So what happens with them is unknown.
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Of the new members who do put up a story, 8 out of 10 of them never post another thing. So what happens to them is also unknown.
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Of the 2/10 who continue their involvement, 1 usually drops off after a few months, and what happens to them is unknown.
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The remaining 1 (out of 10) end up divorcing. And it usually takes about 18 months from go (joining) to whoa (divorcing).
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Of the people who get through to divorcing (1 out of 10) the vast majority are women (about 4 out of 5).
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I think you can safely say that the vast majority of people on here are going to stay.
About 1 in 10 will ultimately leave.
That most of these leavers will be women.
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However, the composition of this group (which has only been going a couple of months) may turn out to be a different demographic to that old EP/SexlessMarriage group, so take the above observations with a grain of salt.
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There are two other observations to be made about that old EP group.
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In all the time I was there (over 6 years) I never saw a story from a person who chose the leaving option come back and say "gee I wish I was back in that ILIASM shithole")
In the same period I saw about 6 (but lets be generous and say 10) stories where the ILIASM shithole was turned around in any sustained way. Bear in mind that there were 50k+ members in that group)
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Make of the above what you will.
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Post by Deleted on May 27, 2016 22:27:12 GMT -5
I wonder, about all the people that post here and posted on EP, how many later decided to get a divorce? What the ratio would be? More men, or women? And who initiates a divorce more often, men or women? I can answer that last one, it's typically women who initiate divorce. You can google that and find good stats to back it up. Men are statistically more likely to be unfaithful and therefore find "creative" ways to stay in a sexless marriage. Women are statistically less likely to have sex outside the marriage so maybe that's one reason they would initiate divorce. I won't presume to speak for any of the other women here, but I wouldn't consider being unfaithful. It's just not for me. I'd divorce first and then move on. |
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Post by 3000more on May 28, 2016 2:34:13 GMT -5
I wonder, about all the people that post here and posted on EP, how many later decided to get a divorce? What the ratio would be? More men, or women? And who initiates a divorce more often, men or women? I can answer that last one, it's typically women who initiate divorce. You can google that and find good stats to back it up. Men are statistically more likely to be unfaithful and therefore find "creative" ways to stay in a sexless marriage. Women are statistically less likely to have sex outside the marriage so maybe that's one reason they would initiate divorce. I won't presume to speak for any of the other women here, but I wouldn't consider being unfaithful. It's just not for me. I'd divorce first and then move on. Damnit!!! just kidding  |
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Post by SweepyBear on May 28, 2016 5:32:47 GMT -5
My situation is different inasmuch that it if my current situation reaches its conclusion I shall be a Widower, then I think another person is going to get a huge life change as well as myself
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2016 6:44:36 GMT -5
I wonder, about all the people that post here and posted on EP, how many later decided to get a divorce? What the ratio would be? More men, or women? And who initiates a divorce more often, men or women? I've read that women initiate divorce more often than men. I don't know if that's true though. I did in both my cases. Edit: I guess from the above information I'm an anomaly. No surprise. I do everything backwards |
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2016 21:24:14 GMT -5
@phinheasgage, you're an anomaly. But that's a good thing.
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Post by cc on Jun 23, 2016 23:36:40 GMT -5
I wonder, about all the people that post here and posted on EP, how many later decided to get a divorce? What the ratio would be? More men, or women? And who initiates a divorce more often, men or women? I can answer that last one, it's typically women who initiate divorce. You can google that and find good stats to back it up. Men are statistically more likely to be unfaithful and therefore find "creative" ways to stay in a sexless marriage. Women are statistically less likely to have sex outside the marriage so maybe that's one reason they would initiate divorce. I won't presume to speak for any of the other women here, but I wouldn't consider being unfaithful. It's just not for me. I'd divorce first and then move on. I am the same way. I am not built for affairs. LOL |
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