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Post by 2019change on Apr 28, 2019 20:32:14 GMT -5
I really don't know how to put this or what section to put this in. I met someone who was also in in long term sexless marriage, our connection was great as we compared our situations then we got together. Then we had sex the first time was not great but coming from a sexless marriage it can be expected. Her story is her husband never had sex, we have sex more times and its always the same. it last maybe a minute and she says she has cums. I am supposed to be finished and get off. It was so weird. I presumed and now I have no idea
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Post by northstarmom on Apr 28, 2019 21:01:56 GMT -5
Maybe she was in a sm because she is bad in bed. Just because she was in a sm doesnt mean that when she finally has sex she will be bad at it.
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Post by baza on Apr 28, 2019 21:03:12 GMT -5
There's not much to go on here Brother 2019change . On the face of it, it looks pretty straightforward....you've got a dud sexual partner. Possibly, she was a sexual dud in her marriage as well. How far are you involved with this chick ? |
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Post by Handy on Apr 29, 2019 4:22:20 GMT -5
2019change, is she willing to change some things? Have you asked her for something you want?
Unless you two can discuss what works or doesn't work, not much is going to change. It is difficult to talk about some sexual subjects but if you can do it, there is a chance things might improve. No talking = no improvements.
Approach this area without placing blame by suggesting what works for you rather than what she isn't doing to your satisfaction. Ask her what she gets out of having sex with you.
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Post by javba on Apr 29, 2019 16:02:48 GMT -5
Hello thanks for writing - I think a discussion of needs, wants, desires and "can you do that for me" type communication would help highlight what is going on, and "what can I do for you"
Like anything else - having sex helps getting better at having sex - sometimes we suck because we are SO out of practice. I balled this woman 3 times in 2 hours - and she was unhappy - apparently she was getting around more than I was. So there's that.
Personally I'd keep options open, i.e. keep looking. You do not have to ditch one partner before or after finding another one. Another option you may try [personally I am not afraid to show feelings] - show you care, take a gift, a small bottle of wine, body chocolate, flowers and some toys?? see how she reacts.
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Post by spencer on May 27, 2019 8:41:35 GMT -5
Sorry, I recognise that description immediately, just how my other half is. She has never explored herself sexually and is opposite of in touch with her body.
Nothing will change - but you can always enjoy the quickie and friendship parts, while you keep looking.
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Post by northstarmom on May 27, 2019 10:24:17 GMT -5
Masturbation sounds like more fun than your dud sex partner. Why bother?
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Post by worksforme2 on May 27, 2019 10:35:21 GMT -5
Perhaps what you need to do is have a conversation. Tell her how you feel about being expected to finish when she does and see if she is willing to be a bit more flexible when it comes to positions and practices. You don't mention foreplay or what you do. Is there any oral going on? What about anal play following PIV?
I met a 65yr. old woman recently who had little to no experience with either of these activities. After trying them she was able to genuinely enjoy herself and be open to pleasing me orally and having me in her rear.
I would suggest you 2 do some experimenting with different positions and types of sex if she is willing. If she isn't willing or is uncomfortable with the idea you may well have gotten a dud. Good luck.
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Post by lessingham on Jun 5, 2019 3:21:13 GMT -5
"I balled this woman"  If that is how you perceive the lovemaking maybe the problem is right there? |
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Post by flashjohn on Jun 10, 2019 15:13:56 GMT -5
I really don't know how to put this or what section to put this in. I met someone who was also in in long term sexless marriage, our connection was great as we compared our situations then we got together. Then we had sex the first time was not great but coming from a sexless marriage it can be expected. Her story is her husband never had sex, we have sex more times and its always the same. it last maybe a minute and she says she has cums. I am supposed to be finished and get off. It was so weird. I presumed and now I have no idea Some people are just not compatible. It doesn't mean either of you is a bad lover. |
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Post by javba on Jun 10, 2019 23:41:15 GMT -5
"I balled this woman" If that is how you perceive the lovemaking maybe the problem is right there? That was pure fucking on both sides. No feelings involved. Nope it was not love making. Women do have physical flings too. |
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Post by lessingham on Jun 11, 2019 3:20:59 GMT -5
Then I apologise and wish you all the luck in the world
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 3, 2019 19:45:39 GMT -5
Next
Cut bait quick
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Post by javba on Jul 4, 2019 11:45:48 GMT -5
Yes it was kinda speed dating between our privates. |
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If that is how you perceive the lovemaking maybe the problem is right there? 
