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Post by workingonit on Jun 3, 2019 19:56:24 GMT -5
I am giving a lecture later this week on men's health issues for a monthly health series I do at work. While researching and putting together my presentation I came across more than one interesting study that men that have infrequent orgasm are more likely to develop ED. General stats for ED are 8% of men over 40 and 37% of men over 70 for men that are otherwise healthy. It is DOUBLED in men who orgasm less than once weekly. Also totally abstaining is not fabulous for the prostate although stats on that are less conclusive.
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Post by firefollower on Jun 3, 2019 22:58:36 GMT -5
I am giving a lecture later this week on men's health issues for a monthly health series I do at work. While researching and putting together my presentation I came across more than one interesting study that men that have infrequent orgasm are more likely to develop ED. General stats for ED are 8% of men over 40 and 37% of men over 70 for men that are otherwise healthy. It is DOUBLED in men who orgasm less than once weekly. Also totally abstaining is not fabulous for the prostate although stats on that are less conclusive. Yes, at times I hate to admit that my morbid sense of retaliation drives me to imagine that I go to the doctor to find out I have prostate cancer because my wife refused to have sex with me...never mind, it would never work, she would find a way to blame it on me....she would say...you should have masturbated more. |
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Post by Handy on Jun 3, 2019 23:16:25 GMT -5
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she would find a way to blame it on me....she would say...you should have masturbated more.
That is an improvement to when I grew up, self pleasure was thought to result in several types of future problems.
At one time my W was sex positive but she eventually bought into no sexual activity is better for everyone.
Hay waiter, bring me another bowl of Kellogg's cornflakes so I don't fall into the sin of self pleasuring. Who would have bought in to corn flakes curing masturbation?
Me, last night and once today. I am on a roll. Is it OK if I stop my blood pressure med? JK!
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Post by RexCorvus on Jun 4, 2019 16:19:27 GMT -5
I am giving a lecture later this week on men's health issues for a monthly health series I do at work. While researching and putting together my presentation I came across more than one interesting study that men that have infrequent orgasm are more likely to develop ED. General stats for ED are 8% of men over 40 and 37% of men over 70 for men that are otherwise healthy. It is DOUBLED in men who orgasm less than once weekly. Also totally abstaining is not fabulous for the prostate although stats on that are less conclusive. Yes, at times I hate to admit that my morbid sense of retaliation drives me to imagine that I go to the doctor to find out I have prostate cancer because my wife refused to have sex with me...never mind, it would never work, she would find a way to blame it on me....she would say...you should have masturbated more. and firefollower, I was diagnosed with testicular cancer in 2002 and have often wondered if there was a possible link to my SM. firefollower, trust a man who went through it, your refuser won't suddenly change and take blame for your prostate or testicular cancer. They won't suddenly see the error of their ways and support a healthy sex life filled with intimacy, passion, compassion and caring... actually quite the opposite, they will shut down further and open up less. Rex |
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Post by firefollower on Jun 4, 2019 16:50:36 GMT -5
Yes, at times I hate to admit that my morbid sense of retaliation drives me to imagine that I go to the doctor to find out I have prostate cancer because my wife refused to have sex with me...never mind, it would never work, she would find a way to blame it on me....she would say...you should have masturbated more. and firefollower , I was diagnosed with testicular cancer in 2002 and have often wondered if there was a possible link to my SM. firefollower , trust a man who went through it, your refuser won't suddenly change and take blame for your prostate or testicular cancer. They won't suddenly see the error of their ways and support a healthy sex life filled with intimacy, passion, compassion and caring... actually quite the opposite, they will shut down further and open up less. Rex Thanks Rex...sorry to hear you had to go through that, I hope things are going better for you...you are right, it would be just another reason to not have sex with me. |
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Post by jim44444 on Jun 6, 2019 22:14:12 GMT -5
angeleyes65 asked The causes of ED are many. Physical health issues like hypertension, diabetes, alcoholism or others can cause ED. Other times the cause is psychological, we are not aroused by our potential partner or the reality of sexual contact is abhorrent. To me the question "Does an SM cause ED?" lands in the psychological camp. I have a very "No bullshit" doctor. At our initial appointment he asked how was my sex life and my erections. My reply being terrible and I am not sure. I questioned whether my ED was physical or psychological. I do believe it is a bit physical but primarily psychological caused by the SM. Why should I allow myself to become aroused with near zero chance of satisfaction? Having deliberately suppressed my arousal enough times it has become second nature. But is the ED situational to just my W or in all cases? I had the opportunity to meet with an online friend for dinner. I had a wonderful evening with her talking about life. As we parted we hugged and kissed. My blood supply started to flow south from the big head to the little head. Yep, I believe my ED is psychological and situational caused by the SM.
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Post by DryCreek on Jun 7, 2019 1:47:40 GMT -5
I questioned whether my ED was physical or psychological. I do believe it is a bit physical but primarily psychological caused by the SM. Why should I allow myself to become aroused with near zero chance of satisfaction? Having deliberately suppressed my arousal enough times it has become second nature. But is the ED situational to just my W or in all cases? I had the opportunity to meet with an online friend for dinner. I had a wonderful evening with her talking about life. As we parted we hugged and kissed. My blood supply started to flow south from the big head to the little head. Yep, I believe my ED is psychological and situational caused by the SM. Exactly. Similar experience recently. As a generalization, just because erections can be an involuntary thing at inconvenient times, women are led to believe that it’s just a physical reaction and guys don’t need mental stimulation. I personally find that mental plays a huge role. Under positive conditions, it doesn’t take much mental stimulation to get things going. However, years of negative feedback can quash that natural reaction even with someone new, and some mental reconditioning may be required to accept that it’s OK now. Conversely, under negative conditions, a physical reaction may still be possible, but it can disappear in a heartbeat thanks to a fleeting negative thought. A.K.A., performance anxiety, or stage fright. It’s kind of a fragile confidence / lost fantasy situation. If I’ve been conditioned that sexual attraction is bad (particularly with my wife), I might be able to override that but it’s a very fragile mental state that’s easily lost. I can totally see the same thing happening with someone who’s had performance issues; it’ll take a lot to break the cycle of negativity. So, it can literally be impossible to get aroused by your refusing wife when she decides it’s time for sex, yet still be easily aroused by someone else with whom you don’t associate a negative reaction. The plumbing is fine; it’s all in the head. See, guys really are mental! 😂 |
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Post by casual777 on Jul 29, 2019 17:18:39 GMT -5
Low frequency definitely an issue. I have recently had both occasional ED and premature ejaculation. Interestingly a lot less when outsourcing . There is feeling of ‘snatching’ at the opportunity like a soccer player who hasn’t scored a goal for a while. This morning was the first time in 4 weeks. First go bad, both a bit of ED then rampant PE. Second time half an hour later much better. Not the firmest erection but could have gone on for a second half an hour easily. It’s all in the head not the penis
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Post by thereal24601 on Oct 1, 2019 17:53:47 GMT -5
I think stale/boring relationships contribute to sexual atrophy, which ultimately leads to ED.
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