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Post by richfairy72 on Apr 7, 2019 19:08:24 GMT -5
So, finally, my divorce was granted on April 1st....
It's taken just over 2 years, and a lot of effort...but I'm finally a completely free woman. I'm delighted. There was a momentary pang of sadness but it passed in a flash.....I've overcome so much to get here....but I'm not looking back. I thank my lucky stars every day that I have my life back and I know I have a positive future ahead of me, full of laughter and happiness, and literally, no dickheads allowed.
My first job......to plan my freedom party and invite all my friends who have got me through this.
And the thing that started this all off for me was finding this forum....and someone posting the words 'it isn't you, it never was'.......it literally has saved my life.
My only wise words to those teetering on the edge of leaving is, if you can, just do it. You won't regret it. Life is too short to waste on a person who doesn't love and appreciate you. X
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Post by misssunnybunny on Apr 7, 2019 19:53:27 GMT -5
Welcome to Opposite Land! Best to you on your new adventure
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Post by baza on Apr 7, 2019 20:03:48 GMT -5
Starting on Jan 3, 2017, Sister richfairy72 has contributed 9 threads showing how she moved from her initial starting point to here and now. It is a powerful narrative and I would urge any newbie (or oldbie for that matter) to read her threads from start to finish. Congratulations Sister richfairy72 . Have just been re-reading your threads - hell of a trip you had. |
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Post by choosinghappy on Apr 7, 2019 20:57:10 GMT -5
Congratulations!!!
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Post by greatcoastal on Apr 7, 2019 21:17:05 GMT -5
So, finally, my divorce was granted on April 1st.... It's taken just over 2 years, and a lot of effort...but I'm finally a completely free woman. I'm delighted. There was a momentary pang of sadness but it passed in a flash.....I've overcome so much to get here....but I'm not looking back. I thank my lucky stars every day that I have my life back and I know I have a positive future ahead of me, full of laughter and happiness, and literally, no dickheads allowed. My first job......to plan my freedom party and invite all my friends who have got me through this. And the thing that started this all off for me was finding this forum....and someone posting the words 'it isn't you, it never was'.......it literally has saved my life. My only wise words to those teetering on the edge of leaving is, if you can, just do it. You won't regret it. Life is too short to waste on a person who doesn't love and appreciate you. X You deserve it! You certainly went through the fire and earned it! Take that strength and be bold in your new endeavours! That momentary pang of sadness that passed in a flash....is a great sign that you made the right choice! Your quote was from @baseballgirl  Her words and experience are a fine example that we all have a lot of encouragement that can help others. it's like planting seeds. I have no doubt that you will do the same! |
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Post by solodriver on Apr 7, 2019 21:35:20 GMT -5
Congratulations richfairy72. I'm getting ready to launch myself and though it's scary, I have nothing to do but look forward. There is very little to look back on at this point in my life or marriage.
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 7, 2019 22:33:01 GMT -5
My congratulations, richfairy72. This transition reminds me of a fortune cookie I received many years ago which said, "there are changes in store for you, but you will be happy." I can't say that the collage of emotions on my part has been entirely happy, but I am indeed much happier post-marriage than I was in it. I believe you will be, too. |
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Post by richfairy72 on Apr 8, 2019 8:22:55 GMT -5
Starting on Jan 3, 2017, Sister richfairy72 has contributed 9 threads showing how she moved from her initial starting point to here and now. It is a powerful narrative and I would urge any newbie (or oldbie for that matter) to read her threads from start to finish. Congratulations Sister richfairy72 . Have just been re-reading your threads - hell of a trip you had. Thanks Baza, you're right, hell of a trip but so worth it. I've just looked back at my old threads and I hardly recognize myself. Knowledge is definitely power, and like many others I wonder why I put up with it for so long!!!! |
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 8, 2019 15:06:27 GMT -5
Starting on Jan 3, 2017, Sister richfairy72 has contributed 9 threads showing how she moved from her initial starting point to here and now. It is a powerful narrative and I would urge any newbie (or oldbie for that matter) to read her threads from start to finish. Congratulations Sister richfairy72 . Have just been re-reading your threads - hell of a trip you had. ...Knowledge is definitely power, and like many others I wonder why I put up with it for so long!!!! The same reason we all do. At the heart of it all, we are loving people, idealize our partners, and become numb to problems that should be setting off sirens in our heads. |
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Post by angeleyes65 on Apr 9, 2019 6:02:57 GMT -5
Welcome to opposite land it's a wonderful place! Congratulations on your freedom! If I could love this post I would. I agree with every word of your advice. We are all worth the effort.
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Her words and experience are a fine example that we all have a lot of encouragement that can help others. it's like planting seeds. I have no doubt that you will do the same!
