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Post by mypaintbrushes on Apr 6, 2019 21:17:31 GMT -5
When I was contemplating divorce, I thought it would be a good, long time before anyone showed interest in me, so I signed up for some apps, just to get out of the house.
I’m sure the experience is different for men than for women. In a couple of months I’ve received probably 1,000 messages and been on 20+ dates. Most are one-offs and some of the experiences have been so crazy I’ve had no choice but to write the stories down (one guy bragged about work for an hour, including a story about riding a roller coaster with Britney Spears right after her first boob job; another asked me out for dessert at a dive bar and proceeded to prepare something at the table from ingredients he pulled out of a backpack). But there have been a a couple of standouts.
One such person has been nothing but respectful and enjoyable to spend time with. We’ve only hugged so far, yet we had a conversation over dinner last week about sec being the ultimate form of communication. He’s also divorced from an emotionally abusive person; seems like if nothing else he has good friend potential.
I also have friends in the kink community who invited me over for some rope bondage and tied me into several chest harnesses (we took lots of photos).
Sex with anyone hasn’t happened yet, but I feel like it may over the summer. For someone who a few years ago figured she was unfuckable, receiving messages from men ranging in age from 21 to 73 (but dating guys around my own age, of course) is a little eye-opening.
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Post by Handy on Apr 6, 2019 22:53:11 GMT -5
Mypaintbrushes
another asked me out for dessert at a dive bar and proceeded to prepare something at the table from ingredients he pulled out of a backpack)
I will have to try that some day/ So you turned down the 73 yr old guy? I guess that leaves me out, but that is OK. Just kidding!
1,000 messages. I have read stories like that several times.
Mypaintbrushes it is good to see your progress, and it is going in the right direction.
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Post by hopingforachange on Apr 8, 2019 18:34:36 GMT -5
Good to hear, it sounds like your slowly opening back up and figuring out your new life.
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Post by ironhamster on Apr 9, 2019 1:53:09 GMT -5
Omg! Frugal is one thing, but that back pack dessert guy is something else. It is amazing what an emotional toll rejection takes. I am so sorry to hear how low you were feeling, because that "unfuckable" feeling is so far from the truth, but, wow, what a wonderful change you are experiencing. Congratulations, mypaintbrushes. Welcome to Opposite Land. |
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Apr 9, 2019 20:17:24 GMT -5
Omg! Frugal is one thing, but that back pack dessert guy is something else. It is amazing what an emotional toll rejection takes. I am so sorry to hear how low you were feeling, because that "unfuckable" feeling is so far from the truth, but, wow, what a wonderful change you are experiencing. Congratulations, mypaintbrushes. Welcome to Opposite Land. Thank you! I go on dates 3-5 times per week (sounds like a lot). The variety of people out there is surprising, though there’s also a few themes I see: unemployed guys in their 40s “finding themselves”, for example. One of the guys I dated turned out to be the dad of one of my son’s best friends. He was between jobs, belonged to men’s group that drinks beer around a bonfire, etc. He left saying he was going on a camping trip and would be in touch once he got back... and I never heard from him again. Other guys just lie about their age. I’ve encountered still others who I’m sure are married and not willing to admit it. |
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Post by shamwow on Apr 9, 2019 20:46:21 GMT -5
Omg! Frugal is one thing, but that back pack dessert guy is something else. It is amazing what an emotional toll rejection takes. I am so sorry to hear how low you were feeling, because that "unfuckable" feeling is so far from the truth, but, wow, what a wonderful change you are experiencing. Congratulations, mypaintbrushes. Welcome to Opposite Land. Thank you! I go on dates 3-5 times per week (sounds like a lot). The variety of people out there is surprising, though there’s also a few themes I see: unemployed guys in their 40s “finding themselves”, for example. One of the guys I dated turned out to be the dad of one of my son’s best friends. He was between jobs, belonged to men’s group that drinks beer around a bonfire, etc. He left saying he was going on a camping trip and would be in touch once he got back... and I never heard from him again. Other guys just lie about their age. I’ve encountered still others who I’m sure are married and not willing to admit it. OK I'm curious. Are the unemployed guys divorced? Had they ever been married? Where the hell do they live? And what kind of woman do they anticipate attracting? I mean, a thundercock only gets you so far, right? |
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Post by mypaintbrushes on Apr 9, 2019 21:37:57 GMT -5
Thank you! I go on dates 3-5 times per week (sounds like a lot). The variety of people out there is surprising, though there’s also a few themes I see: unemployed guys in their 40s “finding themselves”, for example. One of the guys I dated turned out to be the dad of one of my son’s best friends. He was between jobs, belonged to men’s group that drinks beer around a bonfire, etc. He left saying he was going on a camping trip and would be in touch once he got back... and I never heard from him again. Other guys just lie about their age. I’ve encountered still others who I’m sure are married and not willing to admit it. OK I'm curious. Are the unemployed guys divorced? Had they ever been married? Where the hell do they live? And what kind of woman do they anticipate attracting? I mean, a thundercock only gets you so far, right? This guy was divorced with four kids. I had only met his ex-wife, which is why, when he told me his son’s name, I was like “OMG, your son is over at my house all the time!” Super shocked. I had another guy tell me he didn’t have a regular job because he believed that “you have to evolve”. I said I guess I’m old fashioned. I work a regular 9-5 (really a 9-6 or so), make good money, have my shit more or less together. I want someone who is my equal in that regard. I don’t want to be a sugar mama ever again. |
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Post by workingonit on Apr 9, 2019 21:53:13 GMT -5
OK I'm curious. Are the unemployed guys divorced? Had they ever been married? Where the hell do they live? And what kind of woman do they anticipate attracting? I mean, a thundercock only gets you so far, right? This guy was divorced with four kids. I had only met his ex-wife, which is why, when he told me his son’s name, I was like “OMG, your son is over at my house all the time!” Super shocked. I had another guy tell me he didn’t have a regular job because he believed that “you have to evolve”. I said I guess I’m old fashioned. I work a regular 9-5 (really a 9-6 or so), make good money, have my shit more or less together. I want someone who is my equal in that regard. I don’t want to be a sugar mama ever again. Amen! I am really enjoying the glimpse of your life - Way to go! I am dreading the idea of dating and I AM NOT taking care of anyone else for A LONG TIME. |
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Post by shamwow on Apr 10, 2019 8:24:28 GMT -5
This guy was divorced with four kids. I had only met his ex-wife, which is why, when he told me his son’s name, I was like “OMG, your son is over at my house all the time!” Super shocked. I had another guy tell me he didn’t have a regular job because he believed that “you have to evolve”. I said I guess I’m old fashioned. I work a regular 9-5 (really a 9-6 or so), make good money, have my shit more or less together. I want someone who is my equal in that regard. I don’t want to be a sugar mama ever again. Amen! I am really enjoying the glimpse of your life - Way to go! I am dreading the idea of dating and I AM NOT taking care of anyone else for A LONG TIME. One minor quibble. In a good relationship you take care of each other. ballofconfusion and I do that all the time. Last night I had nightmares over something and she calmed me back down. Hell, I don't even remmebr why it was but was happy for her voice. You will not unilaterally prop up anyone else ever again. |
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Post by workingonit on Apr 10, 2019 10:13:05 GMT -5
Amen! I am really enjoying the glimpse of your life - Way to go! I am dreading the idea of dating and I AM NOT taking care of anyone else for A LONG TIME. One minor quibble. In a good relationship you take care of each other. ballofconfusion and I do that all the time. Last night I had nightmares over something and she calmed me back down. Hell, I don't even remmebr why it was but was happy for her voice. You will not unilaterally prop up anyone else ever again. Yes, I accept that edit. You are 100% right on. |
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