You know, I spend every day, every hour in my head. It's as comfortable as an old couch. I am content in here. None of that obsessive worrying-about-stuff that the author lists. No obsessive going around and around in loops and circles.
For me, living in my head means learning things, looking around for interesting stuff, thinking, planning, how to deal with people and things and projects. All in my head. Reading a lot and getting into other people's heads in the process.
Nothing, absolutely fucking nothing wrong with spending lots of time in my head.
You can choose how you see the world, your world. You can choose not to worry about things you can't change, you can choose not to give a rat's arse about how [the wrong] people might think about you. You can learn to be creative and constructive in your head and how to enjoy the view.
Actually it boils down largely to some of the things he says in his other write-up you linked: be self reliant, have a sense, a secure sense, of self worth. Know your mind, your goals, your likes and your needs. If I take care of my goals, likes and needs then there's no need for lying in bed, worrying. And if something DOES bug me, I make a plan and sort it out, so I don't have to worry about it any more. End of.
Nothing wrong with living in your head .... so long as you organize it right. And if you own your shit (and your mistakes and fuck ups) you can if needed, apologize and get on with life. Mistakes are part of life.
A lot of women in my life have had a big problem with that. They said "You fucked up". And I say "You're right, I fucked up. Mea culpa. I am sorry. I will try not to do it again". Life goes on, and I'll try not to do it again. But it's not enough. They couldn't accept that I can accept my mistakes, and don't cringe and cry and grovel going round and round. Life is too short. I own my shit, I take responsibility, and I look forward to doing better tomorrow. If they can't accept it, then it's their problem.
Living in my head 24/7 is very comfortable indeed.
lanie: Hello, new here.
Sept 13, 2021 4:47:32 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happy Birthday obobfla where ever you are.....
Sept 14, 2021 12:30:49 GMT -5
mirrororchid: Hi Lanie, ILIASM ate my welcome from a few days back. Glad you found us.
Sept 15, 2021 18:57:29 GMT -5
worksforme2: My apologies to you baz and your fellow Australians for sleepy Joe forgetting PM Morrisons name...he forgets names on a pretty regular basis. Ask Scott not to take it personal...
Sept 16, 2021 11:42:16 GMT -5
baza: Scott is eminently forgettable so don't worry. Jimmy Carter did the same thing in the 70's with our PM of the time, Fraser.
Sept 17, 2021 18:29:58 GMT -5
worksforme2: One more thing baz...for the immediate future be careful around anyone with a French accent....the frogs are a little miffed at the moment
Sept 18, 2021 15:16:14 GMT -5
worksforme2: Hey lessingham.....how is your relationship with that nephew these days?
Sept 19, 2021 11:32:27 GMT -5
worksforme2: I made an appointment to get my booster shot for Covid19. I had to answer all kinds of security questions. Never thought that an imposter might show up and try to get my shot.
Oct 5, 2021 10:01:50 GMT -5
worksforme2: UPDATE: Booster shot try failed...The booster was a Pfizer. My 1st shots were Moderna, so they would not give me the Pfizer booster. Looks like I'll be waiting for a while.
Oct 8, 2021 5:28:32 GMT -5
worksforme2: WOW h, ...you gave my post in Because we all need a laugh the like response 24 times....that must be a record
Oct 12, 2021 19:53:20 GMT -5
jerri: worksforme2 member h Probably has some sort of trojan horse on his phone/computer and it is acting up. I know when mine needs to at least be restarted because I will send the same text multiple times when I only sent one.
Oct 13, 2021 2:02:48 GMT -5
worksforme2: Trojan horse you say...I thought the Greeks chopped that thing up for firewood after they conquered Troy....looks like maybe someone repurposed it....
Oct 13, 2021 8:17:19 GMT -5
worksforme2: Happy Birthday greatcoastal......
Oct 14, 2021 3:51:08 GMT -5
greatcoastal: Thanks worksforme2! I've got the day off, and will be with my woman this evening!
Oct 14, 2021 6:12:35 GMT -5