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Post by Handy on Mar 31, 2019 20:27:09 GMT -5
Without self-reliance, you can never be consistently happy. And even though the purpose of life is not happiness in my opinion, being happy is still something that’s important to us.
Trust Yourself first.
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Post by baza on Mar 31, 2019 20:50:25 GMT -5
Good article you found there Brother Handy .
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Post by Handy on Mar 31, 2019 22:20:29 GMT -5
The ideas in the link is better than beating a tired horse.
I am not ready to talk with a divorce lawyer but I gave up on anything meaningful happening with regards to my wife and our relationship.
I visit friends and do things on my own. Maybe if I have a few good options I just might strike out to live alone for a while.
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Post by Handy on Apr 1, 2019 21:31:37 GMT -5
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Post by petrushka on Apr 8, 2019 1:51:41 GMT -5
You know, I spend every day, every hour in my head. It's as comfortable as an old couch. I am content in here. None of that obsessive worrying-about-stuff that the author lists. No obsessive going around and around in loops and circles.
For me, living in my head means learning things, looking around for interesting stuff, thinking, planning, how to deal with people and things and projects. All in my head. Reading a lot and getting into other people's heads in the process.
Nothing, absolutely fucking nothing wrong with spending lots of time in my head.
You can choose how you see the world, your world. You can choose not to worry about things you can't change, you can choose not to give a rat's arse about how [the wrong] people might think about you. You can learn to be creative and constructive in your head and how to enjoy the view.
Actually it boils down largely to some of the things he says in his other write-up you linked: be self reliant, have a sense, a secure sense, of self worth. Know your mind, your goals, your likes and your needs. If I take care of my goals, likes and needs then there's no need for lying in bed, worrying. And if something DOES bug me, I make a plan and sort it out, so I don't have to worry about it any more. End of.
Nothing wrong with living in your head .... so long as you organize it right. And if you own your shit (and your mistakes and fuck ups) you can if needed, apologize and get on with life. Mistakes are part of life.
Incidentally:
A lot of women in my life have had a big problem with that. They said "You fucked up". And I say "You're right, I fucked up. Mea culpa. I am sorry. I will try not to do it again". Life goes on, and I'll try not to do it again. But it's not enough. They couldn't accept that I can accept my mistakes, and don't cringe and cry and grovel going round and round. Life is too short. I own my shit, I take responsibility, and I look forward to doing better tomorrow. If they can't accept it, then it's their problem.
Living in my head 24/7 is very comfortable indeed.
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Post by Handy on Apr 8, 2019 3:01:37 GMT -5
petrushka, nothing wrong with what you posted.
I had in mind thinking about people in their head thinking and worrying what might go wrong, that is why I said "don't borrow trouble."
Thanks for chiming in with your style of "Thinking in Your Head," It makes sense as posted.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2019 16:57:35 GMT -5
This is an awesome article and philosophy on life. Thank you Handy!
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