My son just totaled his car today. He's fine, thank God. He pulled out in front of someone, and he was hit hard on the driver's side of his car. I mean, his car got creamed. How he walked away without a scratch is a friggin' miracle. The other driver was OK, too.
But -- of course -- he's totally devastated and dejected. It was a used car, but a pretty nice one. He had it less than two months. He was using it to get to work -- he got a part time job recently. (Very enterprising of him.) And he was going to use it this summer for work and working on his Eagle Scout project. And, well, hanging out with friends, too.
He's young, but I figured he was going to be the "responsible one" compared to my older sons, who frankly were much less mature when they were his age.
Anyway, I'm beyond thankful that he is physically OK. But after that: tweaked at the all the folderol I'll have to do to settle the claim, figure out how we are going to get him to work for a while, etc.
No need to "punish" him: he is feeling low enough as it is. And when we see what all the costs are going to be, I'll be very direct at laying out for him those costs, and that I expected him to cover all or most of them.
But all that is for another day. In the mean time, he still needs lots of hugs, as he is dealing with his big loss.
And I need to hug him, too, thankful that he was not one of the losses.
Sorry to hear about this Brother dan. - There is one really good thing about parenting. That being the instant feedback you get when some notable event happens. How the kid responds to it, in the moment, gives you great feedback as regards how good a job you have done parenting in the lead up to the notable event, how well you are preparing them for the inevitable kicks in the arse that life provides. - It reads like this particular bit of feedback has been quite re-affirming.
Post by SweepyBear on May 25, 2016 10:12:10 GMT -5
Cars can always be replaced, people can't, I'm a great believer in it being a "good thing" to have a close call/minor ding or have a close family member have one. It's easy when you are young to feel invincible and a reality check is always a good idea
Oh Dan thank God, the Goddess, the Universal Spirit, Saint Frances of Rome and our Blessed Mother that he's ok. Lots of Daddy hugs for your baby. Sending warm, loving vibes and lifting y'all up in my prayers.
I'm dreading my kids (15 year old twins) driving on their own. They've been dirt biking for years, so they "Should" understand slick road conditions, etc. I've been driving with them in quiet neighborhoods and ones that are under construction, and frankly, my daughter scares me. I'm looking forward to her being behind the wheel with a proper instructor in "Driver's Ed" next year. I'm hoping she learns more from the instructor than she seems to be learning from me. Same mistakes over and over.
Yes, I can replace a vehicle -- or not. When this one is trashed, you're on your own.
As a person "In the industry" I can say this: EVERY new driver gets into an accident. It's a matter of degree- I am glad that he is well @dan - and yes - cars are repairable- (don't replace - repair, this message brought to you by..) I hate to say it but any accident they can "walk away" from is a good one. He learned an invaluable lesson the hard way.
@creelunion - they are going to hit SOMETHING. I am NOT cursing them or wishing them ill. It's a math formula. Buy cheap and safe (the heavier the car the better)
Also nicest thing I every saw (about cars and new drivers at least) A father put two envelopes in the glove box and rubber banded them to the insurance card. 1 was labeled "Open in case of Accident" and the other "Open in case of Ticket"
The "Accident" one - said what to do and told the kid now to worry - that no matter the father's reaction he loved him and it was a mistake unless he was on the phone - then Dad was going to whip his ass"
The "Ticket" one - Dad was going to whip his ass.
Don't be a perverted asshole. Be a perverted gentleman.
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