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Post by Handy on Mar 18, 2019 23:48:28 GMT -5
H I did so honestly and directly. No making her try to read my mind. No hints or vague comments that could be misunderstood.
OK, I got it wrong H. Good for you and if I remember correctly it did some good for a while.
I don't fault anyone for feeling like it was a waste to keep bringing up the issues in the marriage. I have and am in that position now.
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Post by saarinista on Mar 19, 2019 1:09:00 GMT -5
@ mosses I loved my ex like a family member we had been in each other's lives so long. But I was no longer in love with him. And it wasn't just that I missed sex I was angry, hurt and eventually checked out. I wanted more for my life. I think had it been a medical condition and we still had the affection and respect for each other I would have learned to live without the sex. But when they unilaterally end the initimamacy without caring about how your spouse is dealing with it they are pretty much ending the marriage as we knew it. Everything starts going out the window. I mean I may not be hungry one night but I still care enough to make sure my family ate. ditto.
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Post by saarinista on Mar 19, 2019 1:10:23 GMT -5
Hey baza, after reading your statistics, which I find to be very helpful and informative,- I do wonder why so many people do leave this forum? I miss them, and would truly like to hear back from them. I wonder if they have been offended, or disagree with others, and choose to go elsewhere? Or just stop posting anywhere on the internet? I was off for about a month. college basketball, water in the basement, depression and thinking things out, etc. no sex. Never. Any. Sex.
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Post by saarinista on Mar 19, 2019 1:13:30 GMT -5
Optimism is well placed for everyone that leaves. The odds of a member fixing their sexless marriage is very slim compared to the odds of finding a better partner if they leave. This, and the many other forums dealing with our marriage issues, are not intended as a dating service, but, we have common problems and common interests, so it is safe to expect that people will meet, and perhaps hook up, and perhaps develop deeper relationships. That is very true. The women here are exceptional. Why, thank you! hehehe Oddly, that's to everyone except our spouses. Weird, eh?
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