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smith227
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Remind me again Feb 16, 2019 16:26:50 GMT -5 via mobile solodriver, carl, and 2 more like this

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Post by smith227 on Feb 16, 2019 16:26:50 GMT -5

This is the story of my sexless hellhole.
Remind me to care about you. Remind me to touch you. Remind me to kiss you. Remind me to have sex with you. Remind me to love you, bc I just can’t possibly bring myself to remember and it doesn’t come naturally. Just make sure to remind me to the point of nagging so I can say you’re starting a fight and shut down. Then I’ll tell you that you’re the problem and the reason I can never be intimate with you is bc you’re nagging and I never know what to expect. Then everything is all your fault and I’m just a good person trying to get along. Blah, blah rinse and repeat.

Last Edit: Feb 16, 2019 20:53:04 GMT -5 by smith227

baza
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Remind me again Feb 16, 2019 19:47:06 GMT -5

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Post by baza on Feb 16, 2019 19:47:06 GMT -5

It reads like you are writing this from your spouse's point of view Sister smith227 .

That's good from a perspective of 'knowing what sort of idiot you are dealing with' but is not terribly helpful in advancing your agenda of getting out.

He, and his behaviours and actions aren't actually particularly relevant any more.

You have your agenda to run.

What he might choose to do is out of your control and as far as possible, something to be ignored.

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Remind me again Feb 16, 2019 20:35:35 GMT -5 carl and smith227 like this

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Post by greatcoastal on Feb 16, 2019 20:35:35 GMT -5

That is classic DARVO.

shrink4men.com/2018/06/25/narcissist-dictionary-why-are-you-being-so-mean-darvo/

As baza said " What he might choose to do is out of your control and as far as possible, something to be ignored". Ignore it, while at the same time ,it's helpful to identify the 'problem' as HIS PROBLEM. Something he will continue to do for the rest of his life, not just to you, but to others as well.

Stars can't shine without darkness.

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Remind me again Feb 17, 2019 21:00:31 GMT -5 via Tapatalk solodriver and smith227 like this

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Post by choosinghappy on Feb 17, 2019 21:00:31 GMT -5

I think you are realizing it’s HIS issues causing this (not you), and that is a good thing. Maddening while you still have to deal with it, but the clarity is good in the long run.

Hang in there.

"Let your faith be bigger than your fear."

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Post by smith227 on Feb 16, 2019 16:26:50 GMT -5

Post by baza on Feb 16, 2019 19:47:06 GMT -5

Post by greatcoastal on Feb 16, 2019 20:35:35 GMT -5

Post by choosinghappy on Feb 17, 2019 21:00:31 GMT -5

Post by Handy on Feb 17, 2019 22:55:57 GMT -5

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