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Post by WindSister on Jan 7, 2019 22:00:38 GMT -5
Six months ago I took a chance. I wasn't happy with my current job. I took a pay cut to save my sanity with a new job.
Today I received a significant promotion at said job and I am now earning significantly more than I was at the old job six months ago (3 pay grade raise).
And. And. I am waaaaay happier.
I feel the universe constantly rewards me for living authentically and being protective of Joy. I won't let Joy be diminished in my life ever again. No... that's not the same as "chasing happiness." I can't explain it, but it is just different.
My point?
Don't be afraid of change. Or taking a chance. Don't be afraid to take one shitty step (ugh, a pay cut or divorce) so you can get positioned on a better path that may bring you more than you could've imagined.
Life's too short to let Joy be squelched. Protect it.
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Post by baza on Jan 7, 2019 22:28:21 GMT -5
Your run of stories (here and in the old EP group) is an object lesson of 'informed choice' in action Sister WindSister . In assorted aspects of your life you have taken on some HUGE problems and made the hard challenging choices that had no immediate pay off at all but have later paid off in spades. Short term pain for long term gain. You could, so easily, taken the short term gain for long term pain option, and today still be in your ILIASM shithole and still in a ratshit unsatisfying job. Instead, you adopted a policy of fully examining what choice was most likely to see you in a better place longer term, and went for it, despite the short term pain involved. And now, here you are, some years later. Not that today you live a life of no problems with unicorns farting stardust in your front yard. Like us all, you still have problems, and you continue to make the necessary choices to position yourself ready for your next leap forward. It's a pretty inspiring tale Sister. |
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Post by workingonit on Jan 8, 2019 9:15:43 GMT -5
I love this post. So happy for you.
Chances are easier to look back on but I try to hold the many successful chances you all took in my head as I painstakingly break up my family. It is hard but I believe it will be worth it.
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Post by WindSister on Jan 9, 2019 9:29:47 GMT -5
Thank you.  Of course Baz hit it on the head. No, life isn't perfect but, it Just Keeps Getting Better as Tesla would say. I love my new position. It brings on a chance to be a mentor, do marketing and events. I will be hurling myself out of my comfort zone a lot.... I like that. Rewarding and challenging but still have weekends off. My executive director really believes in me.... now to not let her down. I am making real friends here. I now work out in the mornings.... something I have never been able to be consistent with before. I still love being married. I feel I'm finally, at age 45, finding my groove. Some of us are late bloomers. lol On the ex front.... you'd be proud. I even hug her a hello at events. Jealousy 100% gone. She is actually nice and we would be good friends if it were different circumstances. We talked a bit a few months ago.... yeah, things are well. No it's not perfect. Of course I have challenges. But... even those are doable because I know myself better and, yes, I exercise choices. Sorry for the mushiness. Make 2019 a great year!! |
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Post by northstarmom on Jan 9, 2019 9:45:24 GMT -5
Windsister, so glad to hear about how wonderfully your life is going. No need to apologize for mushiness! It wasn’t mushy. It was good news that gave me a warm feeling!
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Post by WindSister on Jan 9, 2019 19:37:02 GMT -5
I love this post. So happy for you. Chances are easier to look back on but I try to hold the many successful chances you all took in my head as I painstakingly break up my family. It is hard but I believe it will be worth it. The first steps are painful, doubt-ridden. But you can do this. And..... well..... maybe you aren't really breaking up the family after all. You are saving yourself. You are providing your stbx a chance at his own happiness (if he chooses to take it is on him not you). Mom and Dad are still Mom and Dad. It's ok. You haven't failed anything. Let go of societal storylines that are ridden with guilt. Guilt doesn't do you any good. You can do anything. Know thyself and live true. Wishing you the best!! |
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