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Post by worksforme2 on May 23, 2016 18:39:28 GMT -5
You know what I said...... because we are afraid of love! Because something hurt us deeply somewhere along the path of our lives, and now we are suffering the consequences. Timid visitors in the land of love. I don't think I can argue this better than the originator of the above "verdict". Follow the link, have a look at it, and let me know if it rings a bell? It was quite a revelation to me. Why so many of us find ourselves in impossible situations? Why did it take us forever to decide what to do with our disastrous relationships? Self-saboteurs. This is very very insightful. It's hard for me to really get a grip on this level of dysfunction when it comes to a relationship, but it also took me time to grasp the reality that my X no longer loved me. If this is indeed the case with so many people following a failed or disastrous relationship or marriage, we are all in a lot of trouble going forward. And perhaps it would also explain why so many women say they are looking for a best friend or a companion. Thanks..... |
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2016 17:30:41 GMT -5
worksforme2 I'm about to dip my toe in the dating pool as well and I'm very curious to see some input, especially from our lady friends here. I would not think that there would be some mysterious geographical barrier to interest. (20 miles? 50 miles? 100+?) It almost seems counter-intuitive. I also just learned about meetup.com from Dan post. I like the sound of it. It makes the experience not so focused on an actual agreement to go on a date , but more on a common interest. And it sounds like fun! And I'm all for that! We'll have to get together and compare some notes! LOL.
My AP told me that all her relationships started out long distance. I know that at least the guy she was with after me was also. Geographic distance is a perfect way to maintain emotional distance. I don't think she thought we'd fall in love. I don't think she was looking for that. |
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Post by worksforme2 on May 25, 2016 7:16:47 GMT -5
worksforme2 I'm about to dip my toe in the dating pool as well and I'm very curious to see some input, especially from our lady friends here. I would not think that there would be some mysterious geographical barrier to interest. (20 miles? 50 miles? 100+?) It almost seems counter-intuitive. I also just learned about meetup.com from Dan post. I like the sound of it. It makes the experience not so focused on an actual agreement to go on a date , but more on a common interest. And it sounds like fun! And I'm all for that! We'll have to get together and compare some notes! LOL.
My AP told me that all her relationships started out long distance. I know that at least the guy she was with after me was also. Geographic distance is a perfect way to maintain emotional distance. I don't think she thought we'd fall in love. I don't think she was looking for that. "Geographic distance is a perfect way to maintain emotional distance". This actually begins to make some sense, especially when combined with the rational expressed in the article suggested to me by Fiery... Damn, what a messed up landscape to be looking for someone to share an emotionally and physically loving, caring relationship. Ah well, my Harley still wants to spend as much time with me as possible. |
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Post by Deleted on May 25, 2016 15:33:46 GMT -5
My AP told me that all her relationships started out long distance. I know that at least the guy she was with after me was also. Geographic distance is a perfect way to maintain emotional distance. I don't think she thought we'd fall in love. I don't think she was looking for that. "Geographic distance is a perfect way to maintain emotional distance". This actually begins to make some sense, especially when combined with the rational expressed in the article suggested to me by Fiery... Damn, what a messed up landscape to be looking for someone to share an emotionally and physically loving, caring relationship. Ah well, my Harley still wants to spend as much time with me as possible. I'm not a biker but I bet it's like a Tele, it'll never break your heart. |
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