Post by tamara68 on Dec 5, 2018 16:01:09 GMT -5
It has been a little over two years since I have left my husband and about a year since my divorce was finalized. The struggle about my daughter has taken longer.
Around March this year, it was completely clear that there was no chance of getting my daughter to live with me or even to visit me occasionally.
As sad as that was, it was also the end of an episode in which I could not make plans, because everything was unclear.
In April I turned 50 and I decided that I'd start dating as a birthday present to myself.
Early this year I had started to think about looking for a relation. I had thought of what was most important to me. I realized that I have a tendency to lose interest in people rather quickly. So a man who can keep me interested for more than a few months was one of the main features I was looking for. Also intelligence and a wicked sense of humor. Besides that, I was thinking about the right place to look for such a guy and I thought that a kinky mind was something I appreciate so I thought Fetlife was the place to start. Furthermore, I thought that it might be best not to search for a relationship right away. I was interested in shibari bondage and learning more about that and find someone to practice that with could be a nice way to get to know someone likeminded. With or without the possibility of a relationship.
Shortly after my birthday, I had found an interesting add on Fetlife from a man who was looking for a shibari partner. His text stood out from other adds and it gave me a clear impression about the type of man behind it. There was also a lot of humor in it. So I responded briefly, and he replied and thanked me. We started a conversation and less than a week later we met in person.
He was exactly as I had imagined and I had the impression that he was a caring man. Strong but sensitive. Straightforward, very politically incorrect and very genuine. Lots of humor and miles away from the mainstream. We had fun and talked about plenty of things. It seemed that what we both were looking for was very much compatible. One week after that was the first time we started doing bondage. That was fun and from that moment we have been together every weekend. Very quickly things evolved and bondage only one of the things to experiment with.
Even without ropes, we got more attached to each other, LOL. We got to know each other very well and our relationship got more serious. Gradually we felt that this was more than just play.
Both of us have had experience with an abusive partner who disregarded us in many ways. And now I feel like coming home.
We are looking forward to the future and are planning to look for a house to live together in the new year.
Around March this year, it was completely clear that there was no chance of getting my daughter to live with me or even to visit me occasionally.
As sad as that was, it was also the end of an episode in which I could not make plans, because everything was unclear.
In April I turned 50 and I decided that I'd start dating as a birthday present to myself.
Early this year I had started to think about looking for a relation. I had thought of what was most important to me. I realized that I have a tendency to lose interest in people rather quickly. So a man who can keep me interested for more than a few months was one of the main features I was looking for. Also intelligence and a wicked sense of humor. Besides that, I was thinking about the right place to look for such a guy and I thought that a kinky mind was something I appreciate so I thought Fetlife was the place to start. Furthermore, I thought that it might be best not to search for a relationship right away. I was interested in shibari bondage and learning more about that and find someone to practice that with could be a nice way to get to know someone likeminded. With or without the possibility of a relationship.
Shortly after my birthday, I had found an interesting add on Fetlife from a man who was looking for a shibari partner. His text stood out from other adds and it gave me a clear impression about the type of man behind it. There was also a lot of humor in it. So I responded briefly, and he replied and thanked me. We started a conversation and less than a week later we met in person.
He was exactly as I had imagined and I had the impression that he was a caring man. Strong but sensitive. Straightforward, very politically incorrect and very genuine. Lots of humor and miles away from the mainstream. We had fun and talked about plenty of things. It seemed that what we both were looking for was very much compatible. One week after that was the first time we started doing bondage. That was fun and from that moment we have been together every weekend. Very quickly things evolved and bondage only one of the things to experiment with.
Even without ropes, we got more attached to each other, LOL. We got to know each other very well and our relationship got more serious. Gradually we felt that this was more than just play.
Both of us have had experience with an abusive partner who disregarded us in many ways. And now I feel like coming home.
We are looking forward to the future and are planning to look for a house to live together in the new year.
