rich
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Married for 40 fucking years and six more.
Posts: 11
Age Range: 66-70
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Post by rich on Nov 16, 2018 5:32:06 GMT -5
Now that my wife has made it clear that she isn't interested, I don't think I'd want to even if she asked.
There wouldn't be any way she could convince me it was real and she wasn't just performing for my benefit. I don't like charity.
And, besides, even though she's still a very physically attractive woman, she just isn't sexually appealing to me anymore. For me, it's always been as much about a person's attitude as their physical appearance.
So, how many of you would accept the charity, if offered to you?
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Post by h on Nov 16, 2018 7:24:17 GMT -5
No. Willing isn't enough. I don't need my W to lay there and let me jerk off into her. I would rather get a blow up doll. I need to feel desired. I need to feel passionately wanted. If she isn't enthusiastic then I'm not interested in sex with her.
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Post by jim44444 on Nov 16, 2018 9:22:18 GMT -5
The answer as always is - it depends. If the offer was "Fine, get it over with" then no.
Fortunately in my seal that is never the case. It is either she refuses or she is aggreeable even if not turned on. Even if she is just taking care of me She does it enthusiastically.
Now if we could increase the frequency....
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Post by jamesbonding on Nov 16, 2018 11:34:29 GMT -5
The answer as always is - it depends. If the offer was "Fine, get it over with" then no. Fortunately in my seal that is never the case. It is either she refuses or she is aggreeable even if not turned on. Even if she is just taking care of me She does it enthusiastically. Now if we could increase the frequency.... Thumbs up to Mrs. 44444 for the enthusiasm. That's nice to hear. Jim, do you thank her profusely for the sex, buy her flowers, do some extra chores around the house, speak to her in her love language (5lovelanguages.com) to let her know how much you like and appreciate it? Maybe if you asked for more frequent sex (try to set a schedule, like every Sunday morning) immediately after sex, when she may still be feeling generous and loving, she might agree to it? |
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Post by workingonit on Nov 16, 2018 13:20:08 GMT -5
Nope. That ship has sailed. Its all over but the shouting for me.
I would never believe he desires me. I would know he is only terrified of losing me.
But after so long he is more like a brother than a husband. It would really just feel weird. Took me a long time to accept that.
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Post by sadkat on Nov 16, 2018 14:10:19 GMT -5
Nope. That ship has sailed. Its all over but the shouting for me. I would never believe he desires me. I would know he is only terrified of losing me. But after so long he is more like a brother than a husband. It would really just feel weird. Took me a long time to accept that. This! I’ve found it so hard to explain but you just nailed it workingonit! |
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Post by michael on Dec 9, 2018 5:34:14 GMT -5
Not likely. I know it would be dead fish sex anyway. Like h said. I would rather fuck a doll. Or maybe one of those robots they have now. Some of them look pretty hot. And they move. That would be different then fucking my wife. Imagine something moving.
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Post by isthisit on Dec 9, 2018 12:54:20 GMT -5
Imagine something moving.
Oh for the love of God. Run as soon as you are able.
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Post by michael on Jan 2, 2019 8:57:14 GMT -5
Imagine something moving. Oh for the love of God. Run as soon as you are able. Your post makes me laugh. Thanks. I need that. |
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Post by isthisit on Jan 2, 2019 10:38:20 GMT -5
My pleasure
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Post by carl on Jan 2, 2019 20:44:08 GMT -5
The idea of reset sex or crumbs makes me feel sick. It would send a shiver down my spine.
But genuine change I would never turn away from. And that is why I can’t move on. I feel a loyalty and that will never change.
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Post by nyctos on Jan 2, 2019 21:28:45 GMT -5
Want to? Probably not. That's why I haven't initiated in years. If she initiated, would I refuse? I don't know; it probably depends on my mood at the time. I would take a certain pleasure in refusing her, though. Maybe it would be better and more satisfying than sex with her.
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Post by Handy on Jan 2, 2019 22:29:50 GMT -5
Well there are crumbs, short term reset sex and long term re-set sex. No on the crumbs, the short term reset would have to come with a bunch of other stuff I would be cautious with long term reset sex.
The trick is how to tell the difference in the beginning, that is, if it actually happened.
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Post by michael on Jan 3, 2019 9:31:40 GMT -5
Want to? Probably not. That's why I haven't initiated in years. If she initiated, would I refuse? I don't know; it probably depends on my mood at the time. I would take a certain pleasure in refusing her, though. Maybe it would be better and more satisfying than sex with her. That is the way I feel too. Sometimes if I happen to be in the bed when she comes to bed I wish she would try to initiate something just for the satisfaction of refusing her. I must be bitter. Of course I never get that opportunity though. Bitch. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2019 10:41:34 GMT -5
Well, I am just a few months out (I did not choose to stay) and I was just propositioned by my ex in a very vulgar manner by text. And the answer is NO, I don't care to and I won't. He hasn't been the source of my fantasies for a few years now. I just have no sexual attraction to him. I think he's /attractive/ but due to his antics, I can't get excited about him, if you know what I mean. He was cruel and withholding. I need a real man who can be warm and loving and give me all the sex I need.
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