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Post by wewbwb on May 23, 2016 9:18:16 GMT -5
I'm having a really really down day today. If it wasn't for my kids I would just disappear. I feel like just running. I'm just such a doormat. It's pathetic. Feeling a lot of hate for me today. The eternal optimism may not be so eternal after all. We ALL have those days, it simply means your human. You are not a "doormat" - You're being a good woman and he's being a "tool" - don't confuse those things. You can feel self hate for yourself - that is YOURS to decide. We'll feel the love and support for you and your situation. That's OURS to decided. |
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Post by DryCreek on May 23, 2016 9:18:45 GMT -5
Sending positive thoughts your way eternaloptimism... Use the anger to motivate you to action, rally your troops, and then act with a cool head. I'll echo the comments to at least consult an attorney on the matter, as part of rallying your troops. You'll learn if/where you're exposed - so he can't bully you with bad facts, and you know if there are landmines to avoid. You'll also learn what your legal rights are (especially with regard to kids and custody), so you can act with confidence and facts. E.g., I'm sure it'd be immensely easier if he would move out; I imagine you're on the hook for the rental contract and property damages. Finding out if you have any leverage to motivate him would be a good thing. DC |
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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2016 15:12:16 GMT -5
I'm late to this party - so I will just concur with the people who advised you to find out what the legalities are in your situation. Find out if he would have any legal right to make this more difficult for you!
And, it's normal for your emotions to be all over the place. One thing I would add: try to build yourself up, not tear yourself down. Everybody has emotions; everybody feels weak and hurt sometimes. That just makes you a member of the human race.
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Post by LITW on May 23, 2016 15:50:56 GMT -5
Good luck!
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Post by JMX on May 24, 2016 18:30:50 GMT -5
And... If he refuses to leave, I'll leave. Not bothered. Good bloody luck to him... The man wouldn't know a direct debit or a bill if I fucked him with it. I'm definitely angry now. Ha! I know you're angry, but this is funny because it rings true for me too. Seriously, you need to make sure you are covered legally. I don't care if you're not married. Make sure. |
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Post by greatcoastal on May 24, 2016 18:42:09 GMT -5
And... If he refuses to leave, I'll leave. Not bothered. Good bloody luck to him... The man wouldn't know a direct debit or a bill if I fucked him with it. I'm definitely angry now. Ha! I know you're angry, but this is funny because it rings true for me too. Seriously, you need to make sure you are covered legally. I don't care if you're not married. Make sure. JMX, I thought of you when I read that line! |
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Post by Deleted on May 24, 2016 21:03:21 GMT -5
I'm just sending you positive vibes, eternaloptimism, as other folks have much more experience with the legal and emotional side of "the talk." I'm still in my "comfortable" holding pattern, because it works for me right now. Stay strong, E!! |
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Post by angryspartan on May 24, 2016 21:36:47 GMT -5
This situation reminds me of the movie "Love Stinks."
Watch it if you haven't.
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Post by eternaloptimism on May 24, 2016 23:44:59 GMT -5
Just reading reviews on that... Could be interesting.. Thanks  x |
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