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Post by elkclan2 on Nov 2, 2018 11:10:11 GMT -5
So I have always done trick or treating with my son. But this year fell on my ex's night and unlike last year we didn't swap for halloween. I wish I had.
I found out he went out with friends without any adult supervision for about 15 minutes but then his friends went elsewhere so my son - 11 - trick or treated on his own, at night, in London (ok a nice bit of London) knocking on strangers' doors. Because my ex was 'too sore' to go with him. This was always his bloody excuse to not do something he wanted to do. The more I think about it the more livid I am.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 2, 2018 12:51:28 GMT -5
So I have always done trick or treating with my son. But this year fell on my ex's night and unlike last year we didn't swap for halloween. I wish I had. I found out he went out with friends without any adult supervision for about 15 minutes but then his friends went elsewhere so my son - 11 - trick or treated on his own, at night, in London (ok a nice bit of London) knocking on strangers' doors. Because my ex was 'too sore' to go with him. This was always his bloody excuse to not do something he wanted to do. The more I think about it the more livid I am. You have every reason to be angry. Perhaps you can let the ex know that if he is too sore to watch the kid you can arrange that he never has to have that responsibility again. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Nov 2, 2018 12:58:34 GMT -5
Please explain a little more. Who are you livid at? The 11 yr old? For telling dad that he was going to be safe with his approved group of known friends,and where he was going to be? Then instead of coming home/contacting dad, he chose , without dad's approval to be alone on Halloween night?
Or did he come home and tell dad what happened, and dad gave him the ol' 'too sore' alibi to go with him, and the son went out on his own anyways? What would dad have done if he came home and reported what happened?
Just thinking back on what happened to my own kids during Halloween. Being ditched by friends... been there (fortunately I like being with my kids, being out in the neighborhood, etc... but that's me)
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Post by elkclan2 on Nov 3, 2018 5:32:06 GMT -5
I'm mad at Dad - because I'm quite certain it didn't even occur to him to say "Come back" if his friends ditched him or if he even asked any questions. I know I'm doing some assuming but this was his behaviour in our marriage as a parent and as a husband, notice nothing, ask nothing, do nothing. He is not capable of paying attention to others' needs. This is not entirely his fault, he's wired this way. But it still makes me angry when it impacts on my son.
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Post by baza on Nov 25, 2018 17:42:35 GMT -5
I'd be mightily pissed off at his father just like you were/are Sister elkclan2 . On the upside however, the kid did show a bit of initiative which is a good thing. (mind you I am late to the party here as the events were nearly a month ago. In the moment I would not have been happy !) |
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Post by elkclan2 on Dec 4, 2018 8:31:06 GMT -5
Ha ha - my boy has always shown independence and initiative (when it's something he wants to do).
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