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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 18, 2018 22:16:50 GMT -5
I took my X out for dinner Saturday evening. We hadn't done anything together for well over a month but her last kisses were pretty affectionate, so I thought maybe there might be some nukkie in the works for yours truly since it had been a while. But she has regressed fully to her refuser self again, stating she has no interest in sex or intimacy and it never crosses her mind, ever. So my efforts at initiating were briskly rebuffed.
And I was reminded that "all men are alike".. It seems she put a profile on a dating site, expecting to find a platonic male friend to date. But Karma had a surprise for her. Several men responded to her right away and conversations began. All of them brought up the subject of sex and made it clear to her that if she had no interest in intimacy they had no interest in her. So she is pretty unhappy with the male gender right now.
As for me, I licked my wounds for a day or so and put it behind me. That port of call is closed. So now I will be resetting my course in the direction of a new partner to help me through the coming cold winter nights. Let's hope karma has something better lined up for me.
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Post by DryCreek on Oct 18, 2018 22:57:02 GMT -5
worksforme2, you should be smiling all the way home, knowing with certainty that you made the right call for you.
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Post by baza on Oct 19, 2018 0:13:42 GMT -5
You are another who is ahead of the pack Brother worksforme2 . If opportunity (karma, call it what you will) knocks, you are available. That's an absolutely HUGE thing. |
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Post by jamesbonding on Oct 19, 2018 1:39:51 GMT -5
And I was reminded that "all men are alike".. It seems she put a profile on a dating site, expecting to find a platonic male friend to date. But Karma had a surprise for her. Several men responded to her right away and conversations began. All of them brought up the subject of sex and made it clear to her that if she had no interest in intimacy they had no interest in her. So she is pretty unhappy with the male gender right now. Ha ha ha! Did you tell her "I told you so!" or did you bite your tongue? So what does she want in a relationship? Just someone to talk to? Can't she get that from her female friends? |
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Post by Handy on Oct 19, 2018 1:44:49 GMT -5
And I was reminded that "all men are alike"..Did she get some dick pictures?
My older sister died so my brother-in-law went to bereavement meetings with about 6 other men and 12 women. I asked him what some of the widows interests were. My BIL said the women mostly went out to eat, did some traveling and talked about kids and grand-kids. None were interested in anything more.
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Post by saarinista on Oct 19, 2018 2:19:35 GMT -5
Ugh! Just shoot me if I ever stop wanting sex. It's like next stop, death. Sex is part of what makes us human and alive. It's good for most people physically. It keeps us connected. What is wrong with some people? Of course, sometimes the person is a bad match, but still...
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Post by shamwow on Oct 19, 2018 6:24:24 GMT -5
I took my X out for dinner Saturday evening. We hadn't done anything together for well over a month but her last kisses were pretty affectionate, so I thought maybe there might be some nukkie in the works for yours truly since it had been a while. But she has regressed fully to her refuser self again, stating she has no interest in sex or intimacy and it never crosses her mind, ever. So my efforts at initiating were briskly rebuffed. And I was reminded that "all men are alike".. It seems she put a profile on a dating site, expecting to find a platonic male friend to date. But Karma had a surprise for her. Several men responded to her right away and conversations began. All of them brought up the subject of sex and made it clear to her that if she had no interest in intimacy they had no interest in her. So she is pretty unhappy with the male gender right now. As for me, I licked my wounds for a day or so and put it behind me. That port of call is closed. So now I will be resetting my course in the direction of a new partner to help me through the coming cold winter nights. Let's hope karma has something better lined up for me. If she's looking for a platonic male friend perhaps she was looking on the wrong place. There are undoubtedly many gay dating sites out there. They will likely find sex with a woman as unappealing as she would find sex with them. |
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Post by northstarmom on Oct 19, 2018 6:42:27 GMT -5
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And I was reminded that "all men are alike".. It seems she put a profile on a dating site, expecting to find a platonic male friend to date. But Karma had a surprise for her. Several men responded to her right away and conversations began. All of them brought up the subject of sex and made it clear to her that if she had no interest in intimacy they had no interest in her. So she is pretty unhappy with the male gender right now. ”
This should give hope to women 50 and older. There really are sexual men in dating sites who’d prefer to be with women around their age who also are interested in sex. The sexually averse women like workings’ ex make it easier for sexual women like us.
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Post by greatcoastal on Oct 19, 2018 7:20:21 GMT -5
worksforme2@ You are obviously being too intrusive, and there's no reason for her to want any more than one conversation between you. ( It's okay for you to pay for dinner)
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Post by elkclan2 on Oct 19, 2018 7:45:23 GMT -5
I'm here to tell you that not all men are alike. Some really, really don't seem to be that interested in sex!!
(But I wouldn't be interested in them now, either)
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 19, 2018 8:15:26 GMT -5
I'm here to tell you that not all men are alike. Some really, really don't seem to be that interested in sex!! (But I wouldn't be interested in them now, either) My unlucky X has the unfortunate misfortune thus far of only coming into contact with men who want to put their wee wee in her pee pee. Perhaps once karma has disciplined her sufficiently it will send her an asexual male who isn't interested in that sort of thing. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 19, 2018 8:25:42 GMT -5
worksforme2 , you should be smiling all the way home, knowing with certainty that you made the right call for you. I'm sure I made the right call in ending the marriage. But that doesn't mean I don't want to f*ck her given the opportunity. She still looks pretty good and she can give some great oral when she sets her mind to it. |
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Post by worksforme2 on Oct 19, 2018 8:34:24 GMT -5
And I was reminded that "all men are alike".. It seems she put a profile on a dating site, expecting to find a platonic male friend to date. But Karma had a surprise for her. Several men responded to her right away and conversations began. All of them brought up the subject of sex and made it clear to her that if she had no interest in intimacy they had no interest in her. So she is pretty unhappy with the male gender right now. Ha ha ha! Did you tell her "I told you so!" or did you bite your tongue? So what does she want in a relationship? Just someone to talk to? Can't she get that from her female friends? Actually I had told her so... Some time back she mentioned she might venture on to a dating site. She looks good to be coming up on 67. When she mentioned it I told her to just be prepared, that the men contacting her were going to want to have sex with her. I don't think she believed me. Once again I turn out to be something of a prophet. |
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Post by shamwow on Oct 19, 2018 8:51:21 GMT -5
I'm here to tell you that not all men are alike. Some really, really don't seem to be that interested in sex!! (But I wouldn't be interested in them now, either) Truth. |
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Post by shamwow on Oct 19, 2018 8:55:06 GMT -5
Ha ha ha! Did you tell her "I told you so!" or did you bite your tongue? So what does she want in a relationship? Just someone to talk to? Can't she get that from her female friends? Actually I had told her so... Some time back she mentioned she might venture on to a dating site. She looks good to be coming up on 67. When she mentioned it I told her to just be prepared, that the men contacting her were going to want to have sex with her. I don't think she believed me. Once again I turn out to be something of a prophet. I just can't for the life of me understand why someone who doesn't like sex would want to go on a dating site in the first place. Look, there are plenty of places where you can meet both men and women who share common interests. But dating implies romance and romance implies sex. It's like expecting that 1 + 1 = Jello |
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