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Post by workingonit on Oct 16, 2018 19:35:36 GMT -5
Okay, new question for those in SMs: What do you think about public displays of affection? Do they make you jealous and upset, or do you like seeing other couples happy? Hmm.. this is a good question. In my life context in a religious community there is not much PDA if any. I have become acutely sensitive to those couples that subtly touch or share intimate looks. One couple I am very close to and have known for 20 years still share these looks and subtle touches after 20 years of marriage. I have always been jealous and wanted that but never had it. Also though it makes me happy and glad to know it exists. I am happy the spark is still so strong after so long. I also have a passion for live music so I go to lots of concerts. This is harder. Couples are very affectionate in this setting and I am often jealous and really aroused by it. Once at a concert with my h I was dancing and having a great time. My h was sitting and watching the show, not smiling at me or interacting with me at all. When h went to the bathroom the guy next to me asked if he was my h. I said yes and he said "That is crazy. If you were my wife I would be dancing all over you. Let me know if you want to dance with me!" Made my night! |
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Post by Handy on Oct 16, 2018 20:45:06 GMT -5
I like seeing happy couples. It makes me think, at least someone is going to have a good time. If I know one guy has several women, then that irritates me because I see that as greed.
Virginity=late bloomer for me. No kissing or telling is my MO.
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Post by choosinghappy on Oct 16, 2018 22:35:14 GMT -5
What was the best gift ever given to you by a lover? Near the end of high school I started dating this girl who, it turned out, liked to be on top. We were both 18 years old and she was only the 2nd girl I had ever slept with. I’ll never forget the first time I found out she liked to be the cowgirl. We were standing in my room making out and pretty soon all our clothes were on the floor. I started walking her towards the bed when she turned us around and pushed me on my back ( on the bed). She climbed on top, grabbed my dick and lowered herself down on me, then she put both hands on my chest and started fucking me. I was pretty naive about sex at that point in my life but she was not and we had ALOT of fun together. We ended up breaking up over something stupid, I can’t even remember what it was now, but that memory is burned into my brain as the best gift a lover has ever given me. Jon, is that you? 🤣🤣🤣 |
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Post by choosinghappy on Oct 16, 2018 22:38:25 GMT -5
I always liked seeing sweet PDAs because it made me happy that they were happy even though I was in a SM. Sometimes there was a twinge of jealousy too.
Lost my virginity at 17 to my HS boyfriend. He was sweet and sexy and good to me and I don’t regret anything about it.
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Post by h on Oct 17, 2018 8:37:54 GMT -5
Okay, new question for those in SMs: What do you think about public displays of affection? Do they make you jealous and upset, or do you like seeing other couples happy? They bother me more than I like to admit and I usually look away or leave the area if I can. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2018 10:31:33 GMT -5
Today's question for those in SMs:
Knowing that you won't get any sex, would you still look forward to vacations alone with your spouse?
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Post by saarinista on Oct 17, 2018 10:53:00 GMT -5
We ILIASM addicts need more hits! Okay I'll say something. I'm almost done staining my deck. The cast is off my wrist and I don't have too much pain there anymore. (For the uninitiated, I broke my wrist this summer when I slipped on bleach on my deck while prepping it for staining.) That's probably not what you were hoping for but I did say something. LOL |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2018 11:30:26 GMT -5
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Post by workingonit on Oct 17, 2018 13:52:01 GMT -5
Today's question for those in SMs: Knowing that you won't get any sex, would you still look forward to vacations alone with your spouse? No. I prefer vacations without him. In 18 years of marriage we have only taken one. And that was on the way back from dropping our kids at summer camp we took a long way home and got a hotel. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2018 14:26:15 GMT -5
No. I prefer vacations without him. In 18 years of marriage we have only taken one. And that was on the way back from dropping our kids at summer camp we took a long way home and got a hotel. Whoa. Was this because you didn't want to vacation with him from the start, or it never worked out, or....what? I can understand some separate vacations, and I can understand avoiding them after things went south, but why not at the beginning? |
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Post by hopingforachange on Oct 17, 2018 15:43:22 GMT -5
No
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Post by choosinghappy on Oct 17, 2018 16:50:07 GMT -5
Today's question for those in SMs: Knowing that you won't get any sex, would you still look forward to vacations alone with your spouse? (I’m still answering anyway...) If we had had fun together then yes I still would have looked forward to vacations together. But no fun AND no sex? That’s why we did not take a vacation together ONCE in 6 years of marriage. |
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Post by saarinista on Oct 17, 2018 18:54:16 GMT -5
Today's question for those in SMs: Knowing that you won't get any sex, would you still look forward to vacations alone with your spouse? Not so much. There's the concern in the back of my mind that he might suddenly get horny, which would be uncomfortable because I guess I'm a counter refuser now. Actually, I'd like to go visit some friends alone. I need a break from the weirdness of living in a SM. |
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Post by Handy on Oct 17, 2018 19:00:17 GMT -5
We used to vacation together but the kids were in the same room almost all of the time, so vacation sex usually didn't happen but we made up for the lack a little but when we got home.
Now with no kids and the ILIASM when we have to sleep in the same bed, it feels awkward. I sleep on my edge as much as i can help it but don't always succeed. My W probably would not go on vacation with me, no matter what except when our son finally got married a year ago.
Yes, same bed but she complained about several things. My W is better with staying at home and I have finally agreed with her.
I eat out alone. I go to yoga alone, I shop alone and so on and so on and so on in 99% of cases.
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Post by solodriver on Oct 17, 2018 20:22:02 GMT -5
Today's question for those in SMs: Knowing that you won't get any sex, would you still look forward to vacations alone with your spouse? Well just like no sex, there will be no vacation, so nothing to look forward to as usual.
Story of my life, lol
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