5 Qs to ask yourself before looking for love

You're right about there being work to be done on ourselves once out of an ILIASM deal Sister choosinghappy .
Ms enna and I used to call it "un-learning".
Unlearning all sorts of unhelpful thinking patterns and responses that our ILIASM deals had taught us.

In many ways this work is even more difficult than the work done whilst in the ILIASM situation, because it is no longer a theory, and needs to be put into practice.

Those 5 points you quote look like an excellent starting point.