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Post by WindSister on Aug 31, 2018 8:07:59 GMT -5
Have you seen the movie 28 Days? Sandra Bullock's character is an alcoholic in rehab. One of the exercises is wearing a sign displaying what she needs to help her heal. This is a support group, right? So let's get supportive. What's your sign? Keep it real, too.... can you dig deep and see where you have room to grow? The deeper one goes, the more healing potential. If you need to keep it private, that's ok, but stay aware of your sign in all interactions in life. I'll post mine after I post this. Hope some brave souls share.... if not your sign at least that you do have one in your mind?  |
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Post by WindSister on Aug 31, 2018 8:38:06 GMT -5
I might need more than one.  But in all brutal, humbling honesty, I would say mine would be: Confront me if my insecurities are coming out as jealousy or defensiveness Yup. |
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Post by warmways on Sept 1, 2018 4:16:12 GMT -5
Confront me if I shut down and am too afraid to communicate. If I look overwhelmed and don’t know how to express feelings.
Great thread!
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Post by WindSister on Sept 1, 2018 6:13:21 GMT -5
warmways .. we had an amazing speaker at a work function this week. He spoke about "Communication Courage." How important it is to speak up.... directly, honestly, but without being an ass, essentially, not his words exactly. It is a life changer and leads to a more authentic life, for sure. You can do it. Just the fact you posted this shows you have it in you.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 1, 2018 11:40:04 GMT -5
Confront me if I act too much like a control freak. Tell me all the planning and forethought in the world can't always prevent things from going wrong.
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Post by sadkat on Sept 1, 2018 12:17:27 GMT -5
warmways .. we had an amazing speaker at a work function this week. He spoke about "Communication Courage." How important it is to speak up.... directly, honestly, but without being an ass, essentially, not his words exactly. It is a life changer and leads to a more authentic life, for sure. You can do it. Just the fact you posted this shows you have it in you. Yep- that’s me- I need to speak up - especially when the topic is difficult and/or important. If I think it will cause conflict, I stay quiet. |
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Post by workingonit on Sept 1, 2018 19:56:51 GMT -5
Love this topic!
Confront me if I am trying to make you need me. I will sacrifice my own self to be needed. That is codependency and I am done with it.
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Post by javba on Sept 1, 2018 20:47:34 GMT -5
I need to love myself
Accept all right actions can still end up in disaster
I need to find someone accepting to get busy with.
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Post by choosinghappy on Sept 8, 2018 6:23:21 GMT -5
Late to the party but I love this thread!
Mine is actually the same as Sandra’s:
“Confront me if I don’t ask for help.” I can be too proud sometimes and try to do things all myself. I can’t. Going through the recent process of separating, moving, becoming a single mom of a child with special needs... if nothing else, it is all helping me learn how to be more comfortable with asking for help. And I am learning that people are eager to give when I ask.
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Post by javba on Sept 8, 2018 8:57:23 GMT -5
It's like counseling a battered woman, pls forgive the extreme in comparison. However there can be no healing so long as trauma, or the SLM continues.
There's only coping. Keeping up and watching yourself wither away.
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Post by solodriver on Sept 8, 2018 12:00:47 GMT -5
Mine is similar to javba.
"Comfort me when I don't love myself."
Too many times in my life, when I'm rejected, I hate myself because I accept as fact what a rejector will say about me.
Occasionally people will tell me things they really like about me and I don't always accept those as being very important because I'm too focused on the negative that someone I really care and admire has said to me.
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Post by lifeinwoodinville on Sept 8, 2018 12:42:15 GMT -5
What I need to help me heal? Hmmm... Well, the thing I miss the most is physical touch, so I think my sign should be "Ask me for a hug".
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2018 13:22:48 GMT -5
How fun! Mine is similar to the original:
“Confront me if I say: ‘I am tough and I can handle it.’”
The subtext is:
“I am not that tough and I am tired of handling it all by myself. Please help me or at least give me a hug.”
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Post by Handy on Sept 29, 2018 21:07:03 GMT -5
I avoid doing some things because the outcomes will not be good enough so I put things off hoping for a better solution or outcome. My sign might say:
I am not ignoring the situation, just looking for a better solution.
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Post by choosinghappy on Sept 29, 2018 21:16:02 GMT -5
Mine is similar to javba. "Comfort me when I don't love myself." Too many times in my life, when I'm rejected, I hate myself because I accept as fact what a rejector will say about me. Occasionally people will tell me things they really like about me and I don't always accept those as being very important because I'm too focused on the negative that someone I really care and admire has said to me. , your comment reminded me immediately of this quote:  |
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