The original question was,” if your partner WANTED regular sex”, WANT, to me ,imply’s desire. If my wife desired or wanted sex, I would give it to her, enthusiastically I might add,because I still love her after 30 years of marriage.
I’m hearing a lot of conditions, in this thread. He would have to...... or she would have to...... If your partners physical or mental issues magically disappeared over night and they desired (or were able to) have sex wit you would you give it to them? My answer- YOUR DAMN RIGHT I WOULD!!!!!
To everything there is a season and a time for every purpose under the sun.
baza, the way I see it, having sex with the spouse feels like Charlie Brown, Lucy and the Football.
Also intimacy is about chemistry and if the chemistry is gone it cam be just humping and still feeling like an outsider.
I also have read some sexless relationships never recover even if regular sex starts again and there is usually a very awkward time period if and when a sexual relationship is resumed. I have read both good and not so god stories about sex returning to the relationship.
I'd love to have a full-on, carnal relationship with my husband. However, with all circumstances considered, I'd wonder: Is this out of pity, duty, or guilt? Is he doing this because he loves me, because he wants me?
I'm so jaded, I have to put the first clause in the "conditional perfect" tense: I would have loved to have a full-on carnal relationship with my spouse.
It just isn't there any more. I have those same questions (as @andie), and they are a huge libido killer when I start to consider them.
1) I think at this point: I just don't trust her. I think I would view any advance on her part as simply a placating gesture to keep me around.
2) And, worse: I think I'm 100% stuck this way. In other words, I can't imagine she has ANY chance of changing my mind on #1.
I think that means... the marriage is over. Right?
I would welcome it with open arms, however, as a few others have stated, with the caveat that it must be a 'real' desire and not "duty sex'. (once a week would be amazing - that's 52 times a year!!) The chances of it happening are pretty remote though, and, somewhat ironically, I wonder if I would be even able to perform satisfactorily. Over the last few months I have noticed a distinct lessening of sexual desire and feelings (in general) on my part, very seldom do I get fully hard and when I do orgasm (with the help of Mrs Palmer and her daughters) it seems like I am shooting blanks too (dry fire? LOL)