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Post by saarinista on Aug 31, 2018 23:27:52 GMT -5
I agree baza and that is empowering in some ways to look at the fact that we are choosing to stay. However there is the inertia factor. Meaning we all chose to get married. That choice put us on a path. It is not always an active choice to keep on that path- sometimes it is passive, possibly even most of the time. For analogy I feel better when I do not eat sugar. I chose years ago to stop eating sugar. You can say that everytime I am presented with cake I actively make a choice not to eat it. But really I do not because I already made that choice and I don't see it as a choice anymore. I am not tempted, I don't think about how it would taste. It is literally not even a consideration- I just don't eat it. I would similarly argue that there is a big difference between firmly planted on the staying side of the fence and someone who is pretty continually peeking over the fence to the other side. Those that are not looking over the fence, either passively or actively, are not the same as those of glued to the eye holes we have drilled in the fence! For the sugar analogy it would be as if I were considering eating the sugar every time I was near it and had to choose not to all over agian. You could argue that I DO choose all over again but I would argue that my experience of it is different. Actively choosing to stay, passively not choosing, staying but suddenly realizing there is a choice and actively considering it. All different in my mind I know this is beside the point, but no way could i live without sex AND sugar! You're a better woman than I am. |
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Post by choosinghappy on Sept 8, 2018 6:37:03 GMT -5
I agree baza and that is empowering in some ways to look at the fact that we are choosing to stay. However there is the inertia factor. Meaning we all chose to get married. That choice put us on a path. It is not always an active choice to keep on that path- sometimes it is passive, possibly even most of the time. For analogy I feel better when I do not eat sugar. I chose years ago to stop eating sugar. You can say that everytime I am presented with cake I actively make a choice not to eat it. But really I do not because I already made that choice and I don't see it as a choice anymore. I am not tempted, I don't think about how it would taste. It is literally not even a consideration- I just don't eat it. I would similarly argue that there is a big difference between firmly planted on the staying side of the fence and someone who is pretty continually peeking over the fence to the other side. Those that are not looking over the fence, either passively or actively, are not the same as those of glued to the eye holes we have drilled in the fence! For the sugar analogy it would be as if I were considering eating the sugar every time I was near it and had to choose not to all over agian. You could argue that I DO choose all over again but I would argue that my experience of it is different. Actively choosing to stay, passively not choosing, staying but suddenly realizing there is a choice and actively considering it. All different in my mind I know this is beside the point, but no way could i live without sex AND sugar! You're a better woman than I am. Seriously. Sugar is what helped me cope with no sex!!! |
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Post by solodriver on Sept 8, 2018 11:46:41 GMT -5
I know this is beside the point, but no way could i live without sex AND sugar! You're a better woman than I am. Seriously. Sugar is what helped me cope with no sex!!! Sugar has been my ""go-to" drug of choice too. My comfort food? Payday bars and soda.
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Post by Handy on Sept 29, 2018 0:43:46 GMT -5
Ice tea with a little sugar or a half and half regular Coke and diet Coke. The coke is 3.25 miles from home and I ride my bicycle there. It is calories in VS calories out and it burns off some anxieties and frustrations. Now that is a TWO-FOR. Driving there is sort of cheating but I have driven there if the weather is bad but that defeats part of the benefits.
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