Moving on - literally

When you're alone in your own place, any room is the "naked room!"

Even though Dan says to post outside the box, there was nowhere to post outside the box until I actually posted inside the box. Now, I see this quick reply. Lets see what this if for.

I had no way of quoting this, it is in my post in “Always my Fault.” I feel you are entitled to know, making sure I have my facts straight. Sorry about repetition.

That happens, when you get depressed you lose your desire and ability to read. Sometimes I couldn't get past more than a few pages. And I used to be addicted to books. I used to put books in a needle and inject them into a vein. Reading books, writing books, talking about books, ignoring people as I read, wrote, and talked about books, all that went the way of Stegosaurus. I'm nowhere near where I used to be but I have been going through and enjoying the writings of Magus Peter Gilmore. If anyone needs a hex for an ex (what a wonderful rhyme) PM me for my fee schedule.

Do we have PM here?

Glad for your new life, and Zip code therapy!!

I have to take a different approach to books. If i'm doing that much reading I am sitting still to long. I did a lot of painting for years. An hour here and there. I had something to show for it, and I kept improving my skill, while trying harder subjects. I do have three or four books that I read two or three times. I quote them. They are self help books to get me through the divorce.
Our house is cluttered with books. It's looking at how many of them are homeschool books, and books that my wife owns. About 100 to 1 ratio. While I am the one with the lawn equipment, surfboards, boogie boards, diving gear, tools for home repair, cooking supplies, art supplies. Much more active hands on stuff. Just a testimony about our differences.

When the move happens, so much of the clutter will remain behind. Including books that have not been moved for over a decade. Music and movie DVD's of my w's again , a 100 to 1 ratio.

The listening to music of my choice was quickly put to rest by my W's bombardment of her choice of music, played loudly over the entire house. More control. The kids shut doors and put on head phones. Another showing of lack of respect for others choices.

Compromise rarely existed in our relationship. It survived by me caving. That was considered compromise. I can only look forward to what the future brings. If I meet someone who claims to be a book freak or a book nut, I will do my best to ask questions,and remain open minded. Yet that part of my thinking feels like it's been damaged. 
I hope this helps anyone else who can relate.

I think were on the same page! (Punn intended) I have had years of being rejected and detached from my w. How was this done? By using books, music, TV shows, and more than anything the computer and children.
I recall our camping trips with the RV. My w. would bring books. There was plenty of things to do with the kids (too much kids, and no "us" time) and she still managed to put everyone off, and bury herself in a book. Many times I was like "whatever, me and the kids will go swimming, bike riding, kitting, etc... with out you.
Now if someone wants to share a book with me, read parts of it to me,and have some meaningful conversations about it, well...that's great!

Where my gadgets, tools, and hands on activities used to isolate myself? No... there where countless times when open invitations where given to share the experience, have fun together, help me with this, come outside and be with me, let's go here together, lets do this together, lets buy these together, together, together.... Answered with No,no,no. Then if pressed in the slightest would come the lame, selfish, excuses. Why even be married?

Kind of makes me think about going to church. I take in the message. I really look forward to applying it come men's bible study time. Let's hear how this affects you, do you share the same feelings and thoughts, what did I miss that you have experienced? Can we apply this as a group? Can we go out and put some action to it? Or do we sit around and have one person go off on a tangent, taking up most of our time, who just speaks, blah,blah , blah, about something they read, so it makes them sound wise?( I wanted to throw that in there because it reminds me off a controller.)

We stopped listening to music in the car, since she had herself buried in a screen, or the kids wanted plenty of attention. Now my teens are like their mom, they get in the car for a short ride and plug in their headphones, eyes and thumbs glued to their phones.