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Post by sand5280 on May 21, 2016 4:22:09 GMT -5
I hope to go on holidays when I get out of this enclosure. I don't need anything extravagant, any nice place will do. I hope you do too. You mentioned something like this with your daughter. I really like the simplicity of the last sentence. |
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Post by tamara68 on May 21, 2016 4:29:36 GMT -5
sand5280 I genuinly mean the simplicity of that. Simply relaxing, nice walks, different environment that would be awesome. I'd love to go to the beach with my daughter. Belgium beach would be fine. roughly 200 km away, but unreacheable as it is now.
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Post by unmatched on May 21, 2016 5:06:53 GMT -5
sand5280 I genuinly mean the simplicity of that. Simply relaxing, nice walks, different environment that would be awesome. I'd love to go to the beach with my daughter. Belgium beach would be fine. roughly 200 km away, but unreacheable as it is now. Could you not go just for a weekend? |
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omixochitl
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“They should tell you when you’re born: have a suitcase heart, be ready to travel.” ― Gabrielle Zevi
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Post by omixochitl on May 21, 2016 5:49:56 GMT -5
Good morning all and thanks for your support. Next weekend being memorial day is likely that the tent will beckon (weather dependent). Also, first hang out with Friend, since my new practice of detachment. Actually, this present day is the first weekend day with refuser since detachment. We usually spend the weekends avoiding or being in disagreement, sometimes very painfully. Learning my detachment style is interesting. How to remain in detachment without being unkind? I am usually the one to try to "talk" about the issues and I can tell that he is waiting for this to happen. Part of our typical reset pattern. He's also doing many things to please me and to get along, some quite uncharacteristic. Like making supper last night, that was refreshing. I haven't had much appetite and I have been nibbling randomly (lost a few pounds, lol). The most interesting thing is not trying to talk about the discomfort, but rather just being with it.
Anyway, this should probably be in my detachment thread.
I loved reading about vacation plans and dreams. I hope we can all have nice experiences this summer.
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Post by tamara68 on May 21, 2016 6:54:58 GMT -5
unmatched It would provoke a lot of anger and extra problems at home. Not worth the problems. Also no money available. And if I would do it anyway I'd have to be desinfected and isolated afterwards lol
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Post by unmatched on May 21, 2016 7:00:35 GMT -5
unmatched It would provoke a lot of anger and extra problems at home. Not worth the problems. Also no money available. And if I would do it anyway I'd have to be desinfected and isolated afterwards lol Do you think if you put dead rats in his bed he might just have a heart attack and save you all this pain? |
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Post by tamara68 on May 21, 2016 7:04:27 GMT -5
unmatched he would definitely believe he was getting a heart attack. And blaming me
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Post by itsjustus on May 23, 2016 14:21:59 GMT -5
Good morning all and thanks for your support. Next weekend being memorial day is likely that the tent will beckon (weather dependent). Also, first hang out with Friend, since my new practice of detachment. Actually, this present day is the first weekend day with refuser since detachment. We usually spend the weekends avoiding or being in disagreement, sometimes very painfully. Learning my detachment style is interesting. How to remain in detachment without being unkind? I am usually the one to try to "talk" about the issues and I can tell that he is waiting for this to happen. Part of our typical reset pattern. He's also doing many things to please me and to get along, some quite uncharacteristic. Like making supper last night, that was refreshing. I haven't had much appetite and I have been nibbling randomly (lost a few pounds, lol). The most interesting thing is not trying to talk about the discomfort, but rather just being with it. Anyway, this should probably be in my detachment thread. I loved reading about vacation plans and dreams. I hope we can all have nice experiences this summer. Could this be a trend? A direct link to your detachment strategy? I know a couple who are trying to repair their marriage, and they have found "some" success in just ignoring (detaching) all the triggers for disagreements and arguments for awhile. Maybe your new style, being detached without being unkind (seemingly impossible, but you're doing it!!) is having a positive affect? Interesting........
This might make your vacation even more enjoyable!
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Post by LITW on May 26, 2016 12:40:44 GMT -5
omixochitl, I am very interested in how your weekend goes, so I hope you will share. I have gone camping with my wife a couple of times over the last few years with the hope that it would be a time for us to reconnect, yet she spent the whole time, every time, firmly detatched. We were more roommates on a camping trip than we are at home. We will be going camping again this summer too, but this year I will be going prepared to be emotionally alone, though not physically alone.
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