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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2018 15:18:10 GMT -5
@whynotm3 To add a little to baza ‘s comment I was finally nice to myself. I think the refusers take our kindness for weakness but really they are weak. We are the strong ones to put up with a dysfunctional marriage for so long. We just have to channel that kindness towards ourselves to find our happiness. .... Thank you. I agree, we are stronger in many ways. One of my favorite things to tell myself is that only I know what I really want and only I will be disappointed if I don't get it. That puts the choices back on me to do what I need to do for me 1st and foremost. It is a hard skill to learn but I am trying. |
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Post by choosinghappy on Dec 12, 2018 8:07:44 GMT -5
@whynotm3 To add a little to baza ‘s comment I was finally nice to myself. I think the refusers take our kindness for weakness but really they are weak. We are the strong ones to put up with a dysfunctional marriage for so long. We just have to channel that kindness towards ourselves to find our happiness. For me this raises the question: Do you want to live your one life for him? Or do you want to live it for you? It is not selfish to try to make your own life as happy as it can be. And making changes toward that goal does not necessarily mean you are unkind. |
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