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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 5, 2018 9:16:19 GMT -5
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 5, 2018 16:22:21 GMT -5
I agree with the philosophy of that.
I believe your twenties are for having fun and figuring out yourself and what you want in a partner.
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Post by baza on Jul 5, 2018 19:55:48 GMT -5
Millenials, in general, are in no hurry...... To get a job. To leave home.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 5, 2018 20:14:52 GMT -5
Millenials, in general, are in no hurry...... To get a job. To leave home. Yeah, there's that part too! My child psychologist once told me, "today's 18 is now 22, after they finish college, then they can't find employment. ( then they need to move back in ,if they ever left) If they do find employment ,and get married, they are soon divorced and knocking on your door, to move back in,... so you 'll never be leaving that big house" I took a different approach, "not my problem or concern, I did my responsibility" and downsized (mostly due to divorce) I do find it interesting to watch my own teens turning 18 (and over) and have little interest for dating. That and the old way of introducing your friends and a date to your parents seems gone.
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 5, 2018 20:19:44 GMT -5
When I read this I thought about the ones in our crowd who are in their late 20's to mid 30's and find themselves wanting to get out of a SM. How prevalent the FWB or sex first has become in that generation, and not to settle for your SM for the next 10 yrs .
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Post by baza on Jul 5, 2018 20:35:11 GMT -5
When I read this I thought about the ones in our crowd who are in their late 20's to mid 30's and find themselves wanting to get out of a SM. How prevalent the FWB or sex first has become in that generation, and not to settle for your SM for the next 10 yrs . It would be interesting to poll the membership re their age. My first thought is that there's very few under 30's here, not a real lot of 30's to 40's either. 40's to 50's are probably the majority. A few 50's to 60's. Then a few fossils like me.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jul 5, 2018 21:48:29 GMT -5
I agree with the philosophy of that. I believe your twenties are for having fun and figuring out yourself and what you want in a partner. I had fun in my twenties. Thought I knew what I wanted. Got married in my 30s. We can all see how that turned out š
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Post by bballgirl on Jul 5, 2018 21:51:57 GMT -5
I agree with the philosophy of that. I believe your twenties are for having fun and figuring out yourself and what you want in a partner. I had fun in my twenties. Thought I knew what I wanted. Got married in my 30s. We can all see how that turned out š I canāt hit like but I understand. Better late than never and at least you know why. Everything will get better and Iām happy for you.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jul 5, 2018 21:57:30 GMT -5
Aww thanks dearie!!
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Post by JMX on Jul 5, 2018 22:28:21 GMT -5
I had so much fun in my twenties I actually KNOW what I am missing. And sometimes, I get mad about it and post about it here
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Post by solodriver on Jul 5, 2018 23:08:20 GMT -5
I had so much fun in my twenties I actually KNOW what I am missing. And sometimes, I get mad about it and post about it here EXACTLY JMX!! I KNOW what I'm missing and I'm going to work very hard to have it again!! It's what keeps me going every day!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 6, 2018 3:46:40 GMT -5
I had so much fun in my twenties I actually KNOW what I am missing. And sometimes, I get mad about it and post about it here I had no idea what I was missing, and finding out in my 50s is (part of) what makes me want to leave. But in my case it is not just the sex, but the intimacy that I have been lucky enough to experience with my partners in the past year. I didn't realize how big a hole I had in my life.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jul 6, 2018 5:48:49 GMT -5
I had so much fun in my twenties I actually KNOW what I am missing. And sometimes, I get mad about it and post about it here Lol! Ditto. Note all my sex posts š
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Post by northstarmom on Jul 6, 2018 6:51:12 GMT -5
āYeah, there's that part too! My child psychologist once told me, "today's 18 is now 22, after they finish college, then they can't find employment. If they do find employment ,and get married, they are soon divorced and knocking on your door, so you 'll never be leaving that big house"
The millenials I see doing that had parents who broke their backs keeps my their kids shielded from the normal pains of growing up and becoming responsible adults. I have friends who coddle their kids to the detriment of their own health and wellbeing: a 71 year old professor who still works a very demanding job (due to big losses in a financial scam) who flies her kids and grandkids to exotic places, homeschools and pays for counseling for a grandkids whose parents dropped the hall, who cleans her 40something and teen grandkidsā home when she visits; another friend, 67, was taking care of her infant and then active toddler grandson 55 hours a week and now her (married) daughter is pregnant and expecting her mom to do it again.... The mom raised her 2 kids as a single parent without parental help....
Many parents of millenials need to know that no one can take advantage without your consent.
Another example: millenials who are allowed to travel for months at parentsā expense or live at home rent free for months jobless, not seeking employment and rent free after college because they āneed a break.ā
Not all millenials are like that but many are due to parents who failed to teach them to be responsible adults.
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Post by workingonit on Jul 6, 2018 8:04:31 GMT -5
My parents always told me if I wanted to live at home after college I would have to pay rent. I tell my kids the same thing. And I mean it.
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