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Post by DryCreek on Jul 6, 2018 9:36:56 GMT -5
My parents always told me if I wanted to live at home after college I would have to pay rent. I tell my kids the same thing. And I mean it. Damn straight! They need a reason to leave the nest. They’ll tolerate a lot for free rent, and that prevents them from becoming truly independent. They’ll see the world very differently when the safety net is removed. I know a guy who’s 45 and living with (off) his parents since his divorce 8 years ago. But ya know, it’s just so they can get lots of quality time with the grandkids when he has them. It’s crippling them and enabling his bad behavior; they aren’t doing anyone good by supporting him. There is, of course, the recent deadbeat son story from NYC, whose parents had to sue to evict him at like age 30. |
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Post by greatcoastal on Jul 6, 2018 14:22:14 GMT -5
I also felt that I "did my homework" before getting married.
Lots of boxes checked.
Kind of skipped over the sex part, that was 'naturally' going to be there...later.
According to this article, look how it's changed! Sex first, as you get to know them.
What this article does not go into is the bait and switch, and reset that is most likely going on in all the sex first...I could be wrong you know!
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Post by h on Jul 6, 2018 14:26:52 GMT -5
Millenials, in general, are in no hurry...... To get a job. To leave home. According to some definitions, I'm a millennial. I work 2 jobs and own a house. Easy on the stereotypes. I know plenty of slackers and moochers in my age group but we're not all like that. |
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Post by h on Jul 6, 2018 14:36:00 GMT -5
I agree with the philosophy of that. I believe your twenties are for having fun and figuring out yourself and what you want in a partner. I had fun in my twenties. Thought I knew what I wanted. Got married in my 30s. We can all see how that turned out 😐 I wish I'd had fun in my 20's. I was dating my future W all through college, trying to jump start a career after that, and married before I turned 24. I could have avoided many of these problems if I had waited until later for marriage when I was more mature and knew what I wanted and knew to make myself a priority. Too much time spent as a martyr for nothing. Too much youth wasted. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 6, 2018 14:44:41 GMT -5
I wish I'd had fun in my 20's. I was dating my future W all through college, trying to jump start a career after that, and married before I turned 24. I could have avoided many of these problems if I had waited until later for marriage when I was more mature and knew what I wanted and knew to make myself a priority. Too much time spent as a martyr for nothing. Too much youth wasted. We can't change the past, only the future. Feel fortunate - you have a LOT of future. |
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Post by elkclan2 on Jul 7, 2018 4:48:55 GMT -5
I live in one of the most expensive housing markets in the world. I fully expect that I will have adult children in my home. If they are not in full time schooling, they will be in work and will be paying rent, or they will be out. The truth is though - they could be in full time employment and still not be able to afford a decent place to live. I would rather charge below market rent and help them save. We're a long way off from that.
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Post by choosinghappy on Jul 7, 2018 20:11:38 GMT -5
Damn straight! They need a reason to leave the nest. They’ll tolerate a lot for free rent, and that prevents them from becoming truly independent. They’ll see the world very differently when the safety net is removed. 's comment about leaving the nest made me think of this:  |
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Post by ironhamster on Jul 8, 2018 15:02:48 GMT -5
My eldest daughter could not wait to get out of the house. She is not fully independent, but she is making money as she goes to college. She is amazed at the naivete of many of her classmates, who don't have a view of the world from outside the protective culture-dome of the university.
After college, I lived at home for several years, but I had an income and a plan. I paid cash for my first home. That sounds great, but, I can't help but think my life would have taken a better trajectory if I had gotten my own place sooner.
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Post by ihadalove on Jul 13, 2018 20:28:18 GMT -5
Millenials, in general, are in no hurry...... To get a job. To leave home. According to some definitions, I'm a millennial. I work 2 jobs and own a house. Easy on the stereotypes. I know plenty of slackers and moochers in my age group but we're not all like that. Don't believe them, I consider millenials those born 85 and after (I refuse to be called one). The generation with phones stuck to their faces. The difference in the high school and college experience for me and then just a few years later is striking. When I was about done college we were just learning about this new college social site called facebook! |
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