What millennials say about their parents during therapy.

www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/what-millennials-say-about-their-parents-during-therapy_us_5ad0f6d1e4b0edca2cb99211?utm_campaign=hp_fb_pages&utm_source=lifestyle_fb&utm_medium=facebook&ncid=fcbklnkushpmg00000032  

This article may hit home for others in one, or many areas.

For me, it confirms my choice of divorcing . It was necessary to separate in order to have a voice. Had I remained, the only voice would have been my controlling, helicopter mom ex.  Especially as we are entering the middle and peak of the teen years. I can imagine my teens thinking (well my parents this... and my parents that...) when in reality it was/is my controlling, ex spouce.

I did not want to wait until I was dead, or when they had their own children for them to learn, ("dad wasn't like that, that was all mom"- or the reversal as is true in many other couples)

Daily when my teens are with me, I find myself giving them a lot more freedom, and more distant guidance than what they receive/received when at their mother's house.

For now ,it is such an improvement to be able to offer an alternative, and it helps me to find and be my true self again.

Here's to years ahead, and an alternative lifestyle for everyone!